#疼痛真相研究所#更年期的疼痛就像是个隐形杀手, no one understands, no one feels distressed. Because menopausal pain is not really a real disease, most people accuse you of hypocrisy and blame you for being idle.
It's the same woman, a woman who doesn't have menopausal symptoms can't understand a woman with menopausal symptoms, and even a woman can't understand a woman, let alone the opposite sex? There are very few people who can understand the pain of female menopause.
It's hard to be a woman, and it's even harder to be a woman in menopause.
I am 54 years old this year, and it has been four years since I entered the menopausal symptoms at the age of 50, and I have experienced all kinds of inexplicable pain, all kinds of inexplicable emotional problems, hot flashes, night sweats, lack of energy, palpitations and other symptoms.
But in the past four years, does the family understand? I rarely mention menopause at home, no one understands, what does it mean to say this every day?
Otherwise, I wouldn't have had a big fight with my husband some time ago, no one feels sorry for you, and no one is considerate of you.
Here's the thing, I was already in menopause, I had such and such symptoms, and I was still in the hospital waiting for my mother-in-law and his mother.
His mother was very picky in the hospital, and she didn't eat the food when it was delivered, so she had to eat the noodles, so I had to go out and buy noodles for her.
In the hot weather of thirty or forty degrees, I am not very familiar with the vicinity of the hospital, I am looking for a restaurant that sells noodles everywhere, and I can't find it, so I called my husband for help, and they crackled on the phone and gave me a lecture:
"I'm stupid to you, I can't find it, you don't buy it, make her hungry..."
He taught me a lesson, and my heart was cold, am I buying food for your mother? Are you waiting for your mother? That's not my mother.
Her mother made trouble for me in the hospital, and my husband scolded me outside, who did I provoke? Am I supposed to be out of luck?
Later, I had a big quarrel with my husband and refused to go to the hospital to serve her mother, who would feel sorry for me? Who will understand me? Who would think you're suffering from menopause? No one feels sorry for you for a second.
I accumulated a lot of grievances, and on the morning of Father's Day, I angrily scolded my husband and refused to go to the hospital to take care of his mother.
But what else can a husband and wife do if they live and quarrel? The cost of the hospital is so high? Neither of them goes to work and has no income, how can they make ends meet? He made a fuss and asked him to go to the hospital a few more times, and I had to go to the hospital to serve his mother.
No one understands, only I feel sorry for myself, what else can I do? Take care of your own body, and feel distressed by your own heart.
When all kinds of inexplicable pain in menopause comes, I will not sit still, I will find a way to save myself.
When I have a fifty shoulder pain, I give myself cupping to relieve the pain, and when the back pain is severe, I can't do it myself, so I just ask my husband to give me cupping.
I don't care if you understand me or not, just let him take action and use the method of cupping, which will be relieved a lot at that time.
However, there is no way to cupping some pains, so you can only slowly boil it by yourself to make it get better on its own.
If you have pain in the joints of your arms and legs, you can use a salt bag to warm it up, and no matter what you think, you have to find a way to alleviate some of the pain yourself.
Don't expect anyone, if you can't relieve the pain with health care methods, you have to go to a doctor to recuperate if it is really serious.
Just like my elementary school classmates, when they had carpal tunnel syndrome during menopause, they went to the hospital for physiotherapy and acupuncture, and after a course of treatment, it was reduced a lot.
Women themselves have to find a way to take care of themselves, and when they meet their family members who understand you, you are lucky, no one understands you, and you can only feel sorry for yourself.
I hope that every woman can safely go through menopause and become a butterfly.