Recently, the story of a male colleague has caused heated discussions on the Internet.
The 43-year-old male colleague cried tears at the beginning of the year because of the sudden death of his wife, which touched everyone present. Everyone praised that the relationship between the couple is really good, the woman is worth marrying, and the man is even more affectionate.
However, just half a year later, the male colleague remarried, and his new wife was many years younger than him, she was pregnant at the time of the wedding, and the child was born soon after.
For a while, those former praises and exclamations seemed to be ruthlessly slapped in the face by reality.
"A man's tears, is it true love or acting?"
Many netizens began to question that men are all acting schools, and crying and crying is just a performance. This idea quickly spread on social media and sparked a lot of discussion.
People are beginning to reflect on how women should protect themselves and how they can avoid being hurt in love and marriage.
"Women, please learn to love yourself first"
In the face of such a reality, I would like to say to all female compatriots: whether you are married or not, on the premise of loving others, you must first love yourself. Really, you must love yourself well and love yourself well. When you're tired, rest; When you don't feel like cooking, order takeout. Don't try so hard, and don't be too economical. If your child is sick, don't blame yourself too much, whose child doesn't get sick? Life is already tiring, don't make it more difficult for yourself.
There is a good saying: "The mountain will fall, and everyone will run." "Woman, never expect anything from anyone in this world, let alone expect any man to rely on you. No matter how good a man is, he can be your salvation, and of course he can be your abyss.
"Lazy woman, blessed?"
Interestingly, I've found that the lazier and less worried women are, the more blessed they are.
Why?
Because they met a man who could shelter them from the wind and rain, worry enough and tolerate them.
Such a woman is properly arranged by men in every detail, and naturally lives a relaxed life.
And those women who have broken their hearts, they carry everything by themselves, and they take all the responsibilities by themselves, and they undoubtedly live hard.
Because they have no backing, they can only rely on themselves.
"Real-life case: a woman with a bumpy love path"
Thinking of the two stories I read before, it makes people feel a lot of emotion.
The first story is about Zhang Shunxing. He is a young man in a rural village who lost his father at a young age, and lives with his mother and sister. He was filial to his mother, hardworking and kind, and was deeply loved by his co-workers. However, as ill as he could, he was imprisoned for eight years for hurting people on the spur of the moment. After being released from prison, he was determined to start over, but was betrayed and humiliated by his co-workers. What makes him even more sad is that his sister has been subjected to domestic violence by her brother-in-law for a long time, and her mother has also been hurt by this. A series of misfortunes ignited his anger completely, and he eventually went to extremes. Before his execution, he left behind a shocking wish - to donate his organs. This decision made people full of sympathy and emotion for him.
The second story is about Kangding love songs. It tells the story of a pure and heartbreaking love story from the last century. Dawa, a Tibetan girl, was rescued by Li Sujie, a soldier of the People's Liberation Army, and has been in love ever since. The two spent a wonderful time together, but were separated by misunderstandings and inconvenient transportation. Li Sujie was unfortunately branded as a rightist and lost his freedom and lost contact with Dawa. And Dawa waited for Li Sujie for a lifetime, and finally died alone. This love story spanning 60 years is both touching and regrettable.
"Women's independence, starting from the heart"
Both stories give us a deep understanding of the dilemmas and challenges women face in love and marriage.
However, as netizens said: "Women must love themselves well!" ”
In this uncertain world, only by learning to be independent, autonomous, and strong can we protect ourselves from harm.
So dear female compatriots, please remember: loving yourself is a lifelong task! Don't let anyone or anything get in the way of your happiness! Let's work together to become a better version of ourselves!
Sister Hong believes that women must be independent and self-loving in order to gain a foothold on the foundation of society. Relying solely on others is risky.
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