"If you don't have money, you don't deserve to have a baby"? Bao's mother posted "kindergarten receipts", netizens: The baby is a money-burning machine
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2024-08-03 08:05Posted in Guangdong Parenting Creators
Written by: Xiaoxiao
Since the opening of the two-child policy, "when to have a second child" has made young people avoid it. The reality is somewhat unexpected. In recent years, the fertility rate on the mainland has not only not risen, but has shown a gradual downward trend, and many families are even reluctant to have one child, let alone a second child.
Why are many people reluctant to have children?
The reason is too realistic. Today's society is different from the past, where consumption is rising, wages are growing relatively slowly, and the cost of raising a child is enormous.
Raising children not only requires a strong economic foundation to meet the needs of children's clothing, food, housing, transportation, education, medical care and other aspects, but also requires parents to invest a lot of time and energy to accompany and educate their children. After calculating this account, many people feel that in the case of their own poor conditions, it is better to choose not to give birth than to let their children suffer after birth.
Netizen Xiaoyue said: "Poor people just don't deserve to have children, besides, can you give your children a worry-free life?" This view holds that children should not be brought into the world easily if they cannot be provided with good material conditions. After all, in a highly competitive modern society, children face competition for various resources from birth.
Kobayashi replied: "Parents from poor families live hard, and children also feel that life is a tragedy, and children do not necessarily want to come to such a family. This reflects the concern that children from poor families may face more difficulties and frustrations growing up, making it difficult to have a happy childhood and a bright future.
Xiao Donggua said: "Life is only a few decades, it's better to live your own life, and we don't have a throne to inherit, so why bother to have children." This view is more focused on the quality of life of the individual, believing that it is more important to prioritize the quality of life in the case of limited economic conditions.
The world soberly commented: "The poor themselves can't understand it, and they still have children to experience human suffering." This is an extreme denial of the fertility problem of poor families.
Of course, some people think that having a baby should not be compared with rich and poor: "If you are poor, but you can bring optimism to your child, then it's okay!" This underscores the importance of spiritual companionship for children's development.
So do you think the poor should have children?
From a practical point of view, poor families do have more pressure when it comes to raising children. For example, children may not be able to enjoy high-quality educational resources, participate in various interest training classes, and may be relatively lacking in material life.
But we can't just measure whether a family is qualified to have children based on material conditions. A warm family environment, parents' positive and optimistic attitude towards life, and caring education for children can also provide strong support for children's growth.
Some children from poor families, despite their difficult material conditions, are still able to study hard, be positive, and eventually change their destiny with their own efforts.
There is no one absolute answer to whether the poor should have children or not. This requires a comprehensive consideration of the actual situation of the family, the parent's educational ability, and the planning for the child's future. It is important that no matter what the family's financial situation is, they should take responsibility for their children's growth and give them enough love.
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