In Japan, like China, the family philosophy is very deep. Whether it is the inheritance of the bloodline or the transmission of personality ambitions, the concept that the son should be like the father and the son should follow the father is deeply rooted. As a man, if you have a son who has a similar temper to his own, he will be particularly pampered.
So when Liangduo in "Like a Father Like a Son" learned that his gentle son Gyeongta was not his own son, he was really relieved. For six years, he couldn't accept this child who was diametrically opposed to his own personality. The misplaced family affection in front of him can finally be corrected, which really makes the initial lot of people feel quite happy.
It is only after the children return to their respective families that everyone finds that the original family affection is not based on blood, but is born in the day and night with the family, and even the family wealth cannot be bought.
"Like Father Like Son"
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" > affection can transcend blood</h1>
As an executive of a construction company, Many people do things vigorously, and their words and demeanor are full of confidence and publicity. He gave all his energy to his work and tried to lead the family to climb upwards. However, to his great disappointment, his carefully cultivated son Gyeongta was exceptionally gentle and slow.
A phone call from the hospital answered many doubts for so many years, and it turned out that the child who had been together for six years was not biological. Although Ryodo and his wife Green's hearts are full of surprise, Ryodo quickly accepts the truth.
At this moment, he was expecting his own son infinitely, after all, Gyeongta could not inherit himself, from blood to personality. This was undoubtedly a setback for Many, and he urgently needed a correction to calm his uneasiness.
When he saw his own son, Liu Qing, Liangduo was once again dissatisfied. Ryuharu's Saiki family runs an electrical repair shop, and in addition to Ryuharu, they have two children and an elderly person to take care of. In the overstretched and mixed living environment, Liu Qing naturally developed many bad habits that he was not accustomed to.
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It's just that when I saw that Liu Qing liked to eat beef hot pot, I had to sigh the strength of the blood lineage. At this time, Ryoto had confirmed that Ryuharu would become more like himself, and Keita would become more and more like Saiki. Unlike the two mothers, who are inseparable, Ryodo has now strengthened his determination to bring back his own child.
The hospital and the elderly in the family agree that blood should be the most important, and that exchanging children to return to their respective families is the best solution. Whether it is a hospital, the elderly or many others, the way they choose blood is derived from the traditional Japanese family concept, in their view, blood is full of mystery is an irresistible existence, and family affection is also based on blood.
But when the two families exchanged children, they both sensed the fragility of the blood relationship. On the first child's boarding night, although the parents on both sides tried their best to please their respective children, the child's heart still looked forward to meeting his family members who lived day and night. Even if blood is thicker than water, many people and their wives cannot enter the hearts of strange children.
However, reason still temporarily triumphed over emotion, and despite all the reluctance, the two families chose to exchange children and agreed never to see each other. In the mutual counsel of the two mothers, this reunion that was six years late really did not show joy.
In the relationship with his own son, I once again felt the frustration that I could not complete the plan for my child. Even her own son, Ryuharu, can't grow up exactly according to her own ideas, and each child has his own temper and personality.
At this time, Liangduo realized how bad his former self was, and he no longer forced his son to grow up according to his own plan, and unloaded all his defenses to laugh and play with the child.
Keita also became cheerful and lively in the company of the Saiki family, and the transformation of the two children and the change of the parents of the two parties did not come from blood, but from the companionship of the day and night. Bloodline is just a string of cold numbers, and it can never replace the authenticity of family affection.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="16" > child is not a parental appendage</h1>
In this misplaced farce of life, the two children are the protagonists, but no one wants to listen to their true voices.
In the traditional family philosophy, young children are the appendages and possessions of their parents. They are doing things that hurt their children all the time in the name of being good for their children. Parents think that they have the most reasonable way to solve this misplaced family relationship, but the real practitioners of this matter are two children.
They listened to their families as usual, obeyed the agreement not to cry or contact, and the two six-year-old children silently endured the cruel ritual. When adults suddenly wake up and think about their children, they will find that children who are only six years old are so painful and strong.
When the mighty Many find the nurse who caused the incident, the nurse's child stands in front of his mother, and even though his stepmother has made an unforgivable mistake, as a child he is still willing to bear the consequences of her mistake. Seeing such a dramatic scene, many people were deeply moved and truly felt the power of children.
In the chat with Saiki, he deeply realized how ridiculous he was that he only knew how to bury his head in work. Although he said that he gave everything for the sake of his children, in the end it was only for the vanity in his heart. He looked forward to his children going their own way and moving to a more brilliant position with his support.
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But he never asked his children whether they liked the path he had arranged, and like many fathers around the world, they exchanged their children's happiness for the sacrifices they thought were right.
When children have to accept the reality of returning to their own blood family, they are still struggling inside, and even if they can't resist, their eyes always show the desire for their former family. It is indeed foolish and ineffective to cut off the former family ties by no longer contacting. Because Many and his wife were devastated by the torment of missing Qingduo.
Under a lot of heavy rules, RyuHaru finally chose to flee, and Ryodo drove to Saimu's house. At this time, Gyeongdo was not happy to see his former father, because he knew that Ryota had not come to pick him up. Looking at Ryuharu, who ran away from home, and Qingduo, who was negative with himself, Ryota was finally relieved, and it seemed that a child who was only six years old had already had his own ideas.
Many people thought that when they were young, they also rebelled and left home, and after being severely reprimanded by their father, they were full of grievances, because their father did not understand himself. However, many people who have grown up have become like fathers, and it is a big mistake to raise them as their own vassals regardless of their children's ideas.
At the end of the film, Many and Gyeongta walk up and down, and Ryodo constantly apologizes to Gyeongta, and the two originally parallel roads finally intersect, and the father and son embrace there, as if Ryodo embraced his former self.
Kore-eda's works have always been like this, there are no magnificent scenes and conflicts, and the world is told in trivialities, and the final contradiction is resolved as peacefully and deeply as the Buddhist path.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > feelings cannot be exchanged for money</h1>
Money can solve many problems, but there are many problems that it can never solve, can not replace companionship, and naturally cannot buy feelings. Many desperately wanted to turn Ryuharu into the way he wanted it to be, but he never asked Ryuharu if he liked it or not.
While teaching Ryuharu to take pictures, he was surprised to find that there were many photos taken by Keita for himself in the camera. Under the clumsy photography technology, every photo exudes full of love.
Six years of companionship, even if Many are often absent from Gyeongta's life, the feelings brought by companionship will not dissipate. Looking at Liu Qing, who was incompatible with himself, Liangduo only felt ridiculously arrogant. At first, Zoto was even prepared to bribe the Saiki couple with money in exchange for custody of their two children. Of course, such an approach was immediately opposed by Saiki and his wife.
In Saiki's view, although they do not have a lot of wealth, but the measure of feelings is never money, poverty as they have always been a happy family. Practice has proved that many ideas are indeed ridiculous. In his relationship with two children, whether it is for Kyita or Ryuharu, he is an unqualified father.
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He forced his two children to alienate himself in an impersonal way, providing them with a better life and education, and could not hide the cold relationship between father and son. Many people are naturally willing to love their children, but he used the same wrong way as his father at that time.
In order to pick up Ryuharu, who ran away from home, Ryodo came to Saiki's house. In the face of Saiki's accusations, there are many social elites who cannot be expressed. It is true that as Saiki said, my father is also a job and needs companionship and patience.
Many of those who seem to have an economic advantage have lost badly. The two children seem to prefer to follow Saiki, who has been struggling to be a qualified father. The much-admired concept of blood money is vulnerable.
At the end of the story, the two families no longer deliberately avoid, but more courageously face their own hearts. Children who have been raised for six years in a misplaced manner are naturally inseparable as parents, and for children, whether they are parents or biological parents, they feel loved.
The two children each have an extra pair of parents, and the two families each have one more child. Between emotional fusions, blood is no longer important, and perhaps this is the best ending.
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Kore-eda's films have always been like this, he never pays attention to the grandeur and shock of the story, and it is his best to use emotion as a clue to explore people's inner desires and lacks. The movie "Like a Father Like a Son" is not only about how to be a qualified father, but also throws a sensitive question to people, is blood really important?
Here, not only does it explore human emotions, but it also challenges traditional family ideas. In today's ever-changing era, the individual's concept of the family is also constantly deconstructing, and the more independent the individual, the more he looks forward to emotional resonance, and this emotional collision can even go beyond money and blood.