"Like a Father Like a Son": With love beyond blood, raise children and heal themselves

Recently, I am about to start a family, and I can't help but pay attention to the parent-child relationship. After reading a book called "Like a Father Like a Son", I was initially attracted by the title of this book, what is "like a father like a son"?

Literally, it means "like both father and son", such a strange title, I expected that there must be a mystery in it, so I concentrated on this book.

Two families, who were originally at ease, calm and happy, were exchanged by unexpected children, which completely disrupted the original trajectory and became entangled in it.

The contrast between the two families is strong, the Nonomiya family belongs to the elite class, the male owner is an elite architectural designer, with high education, high income, rigorous work, bright future, the hostess is satisfied with the family, life is meticulous, and the family of three lives an enviable life.

The Duanmu family, in the civilian class, the male owner Xiongda barely runs an electrical repair shop, the hostess has to work part-time on weekends, barely maintaining family expenses, this family has 3 children, although the living materials are flat, but also happy.

What kind of spark will there be when two children whose parents have very different views, whose material conditions are very different, and who have received completely different educational environments from childhood, return to their original families?

As a parent, how should you deal with yourself when faced with the choice between "blood" and "emotion"? Is the bond that holds the family together blood or emotion?

The hero tells us from personal experience that there is no standard answer. Blood makes us unconsciously unite together, but there is emotional precipitation to maintain the family.

Like a father like a son, sometimes the father is also a child, and there is also a childhood, and when raising a child, he is also recalling and healing his childhood.

Children, on the other hand, seem to have always been the object of nurturing, but innocence like them, sincere emotions, may not bring parents inner peace and growth inspiration.

How to be a competent father, I also began to have unlimited reverie. "When you realize that your child is also watching you, in that instant, you understand what it means to be like a father and a son."

Maybe I won't understand it until I have children.