My husband's family did not take the child and pointed fingers at me, this time not to be a silent lamb

Those who vowed to show you children, are now fulfilling their promises?

The situation of my husband's family is more special, I have no mother-in-law, only a post-mother-in-law, the relationship is naturally not close.

Husband also has an aunt, no job, and found an unemployed husband, their family rely on my father-in-law to help, what medical insurance, social security are my father-in-law to pay, said to be parasite is not too much.

Maybe it was to sneak away my father-in-law, hug my thighs tightly, and my aunt's family was particularly kind to me.

I just got married, went back to his house for dinner, she may want to brush up on her father-in-law, just say let me not worry, after giving birth she can show me.

I was also naïve at that time, not only believing it but also being very touched. Now that I think about it, I'm such a fool that I believe everything I say.

But when I had a baby, it wasn't like that.

My maternity leave was only 6 months, which passed in the blink of an eye and involved no one watching the children. I thought about whether she had sworn to show me the child, so I told her, and then she started performing all kinds of performances.

In order to reduce her burden, I also found an aunt who cooked, which was equivalent to the two of them watching the children together.

At first, I agreed to be very happy, came, and after watching it for two days, I called me to say that she could not come, and her friend introduced her to a job, and she had to go to the interview.

I didn't feel anything in my heart at that time, I am used to thinking about people well, I thought she might think that it was not good to always rely on my father-in-law, and find a job by herself. Then I am embarrassed to let people show me children.

But the nanny at home just came, one is not adapted to my children, and the other is that I am a little uneasy. I went to work every morning, took leave to see my children in the afternoon, and tossed back and forth every day for a month, and everything was on the right track.

One day I was chatting with my husband and I asked her how her aunt was doing? He said he hadn't heard of her going to work. I was a little uncomfortable at the time, guessing that she might have made an excuse.

This nanny worked for half a year, and it was winter, and her family was far away, and the children would not let it dry.

There was no way I had to find a babysitter again, re-adapt, the nanny found, but immediately let her alone at home with the child I am still worried, I want to find a family member to watch the child for a few days, but also to see what the nanny looks like.

My mother was on dialysis, her health was not good, she was mentally inadequate.

My husband mentioned letting his aunt come again, and my first reaction was that I didn't want to, but my unit was too busy.

In fact, I originally planned to let her help me for a month, and the nanny would not use her when she adapted.

But she came for two days, exactly the same as the last time, called me early in the morning, didn't even bother to change the reason, and went to find a job interview, saying that it couldn't come.

If I don't understand it once and don't understand it again, then I'm a fool too. People's attitude is too obvious, they just don't want to show you children!

Later, I looked through her circle of friends and looked for a job! In the daytime, I drank with a bunch of friends, which really made me angry.

That time caught up with the end of the year, the unit was busy to death, I had to go home in the afternoon to take the child, sometimes the work of the unit had to wait for the child to fall asleep before getting it, and it was until midnight. I was holding my breath, you'd better not have anything to ask me in the future.

If things end here, it will be okay if you don't have contact with each other in the future. What makes me most angry is that she didn't even want to point fingers at me!

The child grew older, and sometimes my father-in-law would take him over for a day on weekends.

I found that my husband's grandmother and aunt were really good at picking bones in eggs.

Every time the child is sent back, my father-in-law promises to say to me, "Your grandmother said that this child's stool is a little dry, are you usually fed more milk powder" "Your aunt said, this child's urine is a little yellow, are you giving him less water to drink." "Your grandmother and aunt said that this child's hair is too long, he loves to be sick, and he usually cuts it frequently."

Every time I can find out what is wrong with me, it is the kind that is hard to pick faults.

Usually, I don't make a phone call, I don't ask a word, what qualifications do they have to evaluate me?!

I asked my husband to talk to his family, and it turned out that he was a 24-year filial piety, and said that I should not always be too careful, but also for the good of the children.

I said, "Why don't they come to see the children for the sake of the children?" Shut your mouth without trying, don't you understand the minimum respect? ”

Because of these things, every time the child returned to his grandfather's house, my husband and I had to quarrel.

The endless pickiness of their family and the favoritism of my husband towards his family made the knots in my heart grow bigger and bigger.

Even if my tutoring is good, I can't stand it!

Chinese New Year's Eve, we took the child back to his house to eat, and we were eating, and we didn't let me stop, and after a while his grandmother said, "This fish is good, quickly pick a thorn for the child." After a while, his aunt said, "This shrimp is fresh, give the child a quick pickpocket." ”

I didn't eat a mouthful Chinese New Year's Eve of hot rice, so I listened to their commands, so if you care about the children, you will pick thorns and shrimp? Just say with your mouth I say it with you!

This is not over, it is not easy for the child to finish eating, I just stopped eating two mouthfuls of food, they began again, "I just saw that the child's tongue is a little thick, is it on fire, you have nothing to eat some gunpowder." ”

"Well, I see that the child's small palms are hot, is it too much to eat, usually pay more attention."

I watched them both chatter and spit on The Star's mouth, and I threw the chopsticks on the table.

It was so loud that the people in the room didn't squeak anymore.

"Are you done?" I pushed the bowl forward, "Then I said. ”

"First, I didn't notice my son had these symptoms you said. Second, you are not a doctor, what is good and what is not good do you understand? Don't talk about it if you don't understand. Third, I can count the number of times you see your children in a year, I can count them with one hand, usually there is no phone call, do you know what your children usually look like! ”

I looked at their family, my hands trembling.

"We don't usually have time to go." His aunt said unconvinced.

"You shut your mouth, I haven't finished my words, do you know how to respect people?" I also didn't care about politeness and respect, because they never respected me.

"This child, from the birth of the child prematurely, to the current age of three, you have a lot of money to know." It is no problem not to look at the child, I am born by myself, but you are not qualified to evaluate me without paying, is this the minimum respect for people? ”

"It's the first time I've said it, but I've been putting up with these words for three years. If you can get along well in the future, we will continue to communicate, and if you are still so unforgiving, you don't have to call me back every New Year's Festival, and I won't come back. ”

After saying that, I also ignored the black and pot-like faces of their family, and carried the child home, and the chickens and dogs jumped this year.

After a while my husband also came back, and he accused me of not making such an unpleasant Chinese New Year's Eve and making his grandmother angry?!

I was so disappointed in this man.

"Your grandmother can't be angry, can I?" Who stirred the big Chinese New Year's Eve can't stop, they are at the dinner table to pick a problem with me with a gun and a stick when you pretend to be deaf and dumb, now play with me what prestige! If you can pass this day, you will shut your mouth, and I will not mention your family to me less in the future, I don't want to hear it. Can't pass, as soon as the Seventh Civil Affairs Bureau goes to work, we will go through the formalities! ”

"Now I don't want to argue with you, I think I'm still educated, I don't want to scold you like a shrew!" Get away from me! ”

Because I have always been very peaceful, even if I am angry, I will not act too fiercely, so look at my so resolute attitude, my husband does not make a sound.

Since the fight against this, the husband's family affairs we have both tacitly agreed not to ask one question and one not to say, the days are also too peaceful.

After two years, his aunt's children took the middle school entrance examination, usually no one cared, the results can be imagined, and they were admitted to the worst high school in the city.

At that time, there was no epidemic, and I wanted to send it to Japan, and there were friends who opened restaurants there and wanted to go to Japan to work.

Knowing that I was a teacher-training Japanese major in college, I wanted me to teach him.

My husband told me.

"According to my current international level, one-on-one teaching, the cheapest is 200 an hour, if she thinks it is OK, I can teach." 」 I smiled.

"What kind of money does the family have?" My husband thought I was joking with him, and said to me with a hippie smile.

"Don't be a family, they are your family, and they have nothing to do with me." I am not a bad person, but I am not a bad good person, and I do not have the noble sentiment of repaying grievances with virtue, and it is good that I do not raise her price. ”

I don't pay attention when I need help, and I need help and take "family" to morally kidnap.

Written at the end: There is no absolute right or wrong in living a life, but there is a heart-to-heart relationship. Family members are mutually fulfilling beings, not excuses for calculating interests.