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For each of us, home is the warmest place that carries us, the warmest harbor, no matter how long away from home, no matter how hard you work outside, home is your eternal retreat.
It is always not easy to run around, there will be many moments of collapse, there will also be moments of wanting to retreat, at this time, your parents' words "Go home, I will raise you" will make you feel warm for a long time.
Whether the family is rich or poor, it will be passed down from generation to generation, the difference is that some families will become more and more prosperous, while others will become more and more decaying. The success or failure of a family is related to every member of the family, and no one can hang high without caring about himself. Only when the family works together can the family develop smoothly and smoothly.
Whether the family is decaying or not, many times it has little to do with the family's financial resources. Only a family can be happy and sweet, united as one, even if it is not rich, it will be very happy and complete.
Those who have become more and more prosperous, from the top to the bottom of the scene of everyone together to enjoy and harmonize, from their we can always find common ground. In the same way, the decay of a family is not just a matter for one person, and we can find some places to avoid in these families.
Generally speaking, when a family begins to decay, there are often the following three signs, one of which should be paid special attention.
Parents have a clear bias that leads to their children being incompatible
Generally speaking, in families with many children, it is impossible for parents to completely level a bowl of water, and there will always be some appropriate deviations, which is a very normal thing.
There is nothing wrong with a little bias, but if the bias is too obvious, it is easy to affect the feelings between children.
Many brothers and sisters have discord between feelings, in fact, have a certain relationship with the elderly, as long as the elderly have a clear bias, too biased to a certain person, it will lead to other children quite a lot of opinions, resulting in emotional breakdown.
Many families are parents who are too patriarchal, put too much spoiling on their sons, and completely ignore their daughters, and even many parents achieve spoiling of their sons by squeezing their daughters, which can easily chill the hearts of their daughters and alienate the feelings between their children.
In the TV series "All Is Good", this is the situation, Su Mu over-pampered Su Mingcheng, completely ignoring Su Mingyu, Su Mingyu has never felt the warmth of the family, the concept of home is completely cold, in addition to the resentment of her parents, resulting in her and Su Mingcheng two people also have a deep resentment, there is no way to get along with each other.
As soon as the two people met, they pinched, like enemies, there was no love at all, and even in the end, Su Mingcheng beat Up Su Mingyu, and the whole family was torn apart.
Brothers and sisters are the relatives left by parents to their children, and should be the closest people in this world except for their parents, but because of the eccentric feelings of their parents, as long as the family members are not compatible, then the family has been essentially dispersed and will inevitably decline.
Husband and wife centrifugal, frequent quarrels
Husband and wife are the pillars of a family, and the members of the family are all connected and become a family because of the two people.
Husband and wife occupy a pivotal position in a family, as long as two people are united and wholeheartedly in this family, then other things will be solved, no matter what kind of twists and turns the family encounters, they can face it neatly together.
But if the husband and wife are separated, and the only bit of warmth between the two people is consumed by frequent quarrels, then sooner or later this relationship will go to a strange road, the feelings are gone, and the home is scattered.
In "The World of Man", Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng have experienced hardships and obstacles, watching the days get better day by day, but the distance between the two people is getting farther and farther. Zhou Rong's admiration for Feng Huacheng turned into nothingness and was replaced by contempt, and her share of purity also made Feng Huacheng blind, and only frequent quarrels remained between the two people.
By chance, Feng Huacheng met the young poet Wang Zi, the two people looked at each other and fell in love, Feng Huacheng betrayed this marriage, abandoned his wife and son to a foreign land.
When the days are the most difficult, the two people have carried together, as long as the husband and wife have one heart, no matter how big the difficulties can be faced together, as long as the hearts are not together, sooner or later they will go to extinction.
When there are only frequent quarrels left in the family, then the family has no warmth at all, and it is only a matter of time before it decays.
The younger generations are not in the right style and do not do the right thing
Descendants are often the inheritance of the entire family, the elderly and parents put all their hopes on the offspring, they often do not need the offspring to have much contention, for the family to honor the ancestors. As long as they can be pure in heart, single-mindedly good, and walk their own path in a down-to-earth manner, they will already be satisfied.
As long as the future generations are upright and diligent, the days will not be too bad, the whole family will have inheritance, and the old people will feel very at ease, but if the descendants are not in the right style and do not do the right thing, then the family will inevitably decline.
There is a family in my village, the husband has been drinking for many years, the wife chose to leave, took the daughter, and left the son with the man. Although men are alcoholics, they are good and down-to-earth under soberness, and although they are poor, they are also developing in a good direction.
But the descendants are not in the right style, often do some things to steal chickens and dogs, have a bad reputation in the whole village, watching the elderly, do not go to find a solid and stable job, but reach out to their father for money. Now a young man in his 20s, still not doing his job, sitting at home and eating the old, such a family can be said to have completely declined in his generation.
You can not have much ability, you do not have to earn too much money, as long as you are upright, diligent and sincere, it is the inheritance of the whole family, when a person has a bad style, then it is difficult to pass on the family, sooner or later it will be broken.
Whether a family prospers or declines is closely related to every member of the family.
The elderly in the family, down to the descendants, need to pay for the family, unite as one, and work together to fight for this family, even if it is not rich and expensive, at least the small wealth is safe.
On the contrary, as long as one party does not care about business and does something that disturbs the order of the family, the family will inevitably decline.
If you want family harmony, you need to start from yourself, put yourself in the right position, treat your family well, as long as you are all invested in the family and contribute to the family, you can definitely make the family more and more prosperous.