Choosing to enter into marriage with someone you love is a joyful thing, but marriage is not easy. It's far from just getting a marriage certificate as one might think. Mutual understanding and integration before marriage, preparation before marriage, and the views of both parents require a thoughtful exchange. If it can't be handled properly, you may end up choosing to go your separate ways. In the case of the bride price, many lovers have been in trouble. Some cannot afford it, some are unwilling to pay, and still others are divided over the amount of the dowry.
Recently, a girl from Yunnan also encountered the problem of bride price, and she attracted widespread attention after sharing her experience. The girl said that she and her boyfriend have been in love for 13 years, and the two have come all the way since their student days and are now ready to enter the palace of marriage. However, beautiful love is hindered by the bride price. The girl's initial family was prepared to demand a bride price of $168,000 from the man, which seemed auspicious. But then they compromised to $38,000, which was a huge reduction. The two spent 13 years together, and the girl's family provided a considerable amount of dowry, and the bride price was actually to keep the tradition, not to obtain the man's money. The man originally promised to pay, and also promised to go back to collect the 38,000 yuan bride price, but they did not expect that the man would suddenly regret after completing the form and refuse to pay the bride price. This sudden change made the girl very angry, and she thought that the man's untrustworthy behavior made her feel hopeless. And the girl's family, especially her father, did not support her as she had hoped. The words of the girl's father made her feel exhausted. The father said that his daughter is 33 years old, and it is not easy to find a satisfactory partner at this age. If the man is resolutely unwilling to pay the more than 30,000 bride price, he advises his daughter not to care, because these tens of thousands of yuan are not a huge burden for the family. The girl felt that her father did not understand her, so she chose to share her experience through video. The video quickly aroused widespread discussion among netizens, and also attracted some people who like to fan the flames to create chaos in the comment area.
In fact, there are some problems now. First of all, the girl felt that they had spent 13 years together, and the bride price was reduced from 160,000 to 30,008, and she just wanted a formal recognition, but the man did not want it. A netizen said that 13 years is precious time for both men and women, and the important thing is not whether they are willing to pay, but whether they are really willing. In these 13 years, didn't the two have enough time to get to know each other? If you are ready to get married, why are you arguing over these trivial matters? Secondly, the issue of bride price also needs to be taken seriously. After being together for so long, what is the financial situation of the man's family? Is this 38,000 yuan because the man is unwilling to pay, or is his ability to pay limited? If the man is rich but unwilling to pay, then the woman's 13 years of love seems to have been in vain, and the responsibility should not only belong to the suspected and unreliable man, but also to the woman. If the man's ability to pay is insufficient, and the woman now asks the man to borrow money to pay the dowry, the responsibility will obviously fall on the woman. In fact, many families cannot afford to pay such a bride price, and marriage involves not only the bride price, but also various expenses such as house, car and wedding. Judging from the woman's repeated mention of the word "borrow", it is likely that the man's family does not have this money, and the father's words can also reflect this. If this speculation holds, it is clear that the two will not be able to meet the requirements of the door-to-door pair. Ultimately, marriage is about understanding, tolerance, and compromise, not just formal recognition. Of course, the woman's father's words may be a little heavy, but as an elder who has experienced marriage, he has his own views on marriage, different people have different ways of thinking, and mutual understanding is the key to solving problems. The age of 33 does not mean the end of happiness, and marriage is not necessarily synonymous with happiness, especially if the man is so determined. Marriage is a serious decision, and two people need to work together, not rush decisions.