Dictated/Aunt Zheng
As a parent, I have accomplished a major event in my life, and I have been very happy recently because my son has finally married a daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law is good-looking, her family background is also good, and her parents are good-tempered and easy to get along with. How much is the bride price and what to do with the wedding, it is up to us men to decide, and her family has nothing at all. However, after the wedding, I was uncomfortable, because I only received more than 80,000 yuan in gift money.
I didn't think that the gift money I received was less, but my family spent a lot on weddings, I roughly calculated, booked hotels, arranged venues, arranged banquets, and wedding cars, etc., all kinds of miscellaneous things added together, and spent more than 120,000 yuan.
At the beginning, my husband and I made a lot of determination to decide to do it, after all, my family is an only child. Over the years, I have only given gifts to relatives, friends, colleagues, and classmates, and my family has done this one thing, so I can't take the opportunity to return to my roots?
I also want to make the wedding a pomp and circumstance, so that relatives and friends can eat and drink well and be happy. The wedding was indeed as beautiful as we imagined, and the family and friends were full of praise for the dishes, so I was naturally happy in my heart.
However, before the wedding, my mother-in-law once mentioned it to me, she said: "As long as you are good to my daughter and son-in-law, even if the wedding is not big, we will not say anything." Isn't it popular for young people to travel and get married now? With this money, it's good for the two of them to go out and have a good time. ”
It's a pity that I was just thinking about pomp and circumstance, and I wanted to take back all the gifts that I had gone out with over the years, so I immediately refused, I said, "What kind of trip to get married? That's all young people messing around, we can't be foolish as elders." My family goes out with a lot of gifts, and so does your family? Why don't we have a wedding in the scenery, who knows that our children are getting married? Who will give us a gift in return?"
When my mother-in-law heard what I said, she stopped talking. I think that my mother-in-law is also easy to talk to, and she may just make a suggestion and don't want us to spend too much money on our children's wedding. People are polite and polite, we can't take it seriously, we must make the wedding of our son and daughter-in-law beautiful.
There are a lot of relatives and friends who came to the wedding, but there are also some friends who don't usually contact much, and suddenly said that my son is going to get married, they are embarrassed to come, some directly sent me red envelopes, some only said congratulations, and red envelopes were not sent, and I was embarrassed to ask for them.
Moreover, at my age, I am 57 years old, and some of my colleagues are older than me, some are younger than me, and two of them are sick and are not alive, and it is unrealistic to expect all the gifts that went out with me to return.
Therefore, we spent more than 120,000 yuan on the wedding, and the gift money recovered was only more than 80,000 yuan, which was a big difference from my expectations.
It's good now, not to mention spending money, but also to find unhappiness in my heart. My husband also said that I was beaten, saying to me: "I love to compare and talk about pomp and circumstance all my life, but now it's okay, the pomp is there, and the wallet is deflated again, right?"
This stubborn old man, don't say anything to comfort me, just say cool words, if I had expected this ending, I wouldn't have to talk about pomp.
At the end of the show, I watched the dishes on several tables and didn't move much, and I felt sorry for it, so I asked some of my sisters who had a good relationship, as well as my relatives on my mother's side, to pack them in plastic bags.
When I went back in the evening, my son asked me excitedly, "Mom, how much gift money did we receive this time?"
My son looked at my summary and said, "Mom, you can take this money, I don't want it and your daughter-in-law, we both have money in our hands." This is all the gift you have gone out with over the years, you have already given us a wedding, and we can't take this gift money anymore. ”
My daughter-in-law also said: "Mom and Dad, you can take the gift money, our friends and colleagues have the gifts, we usually accept them, we don't give them to you, and you don't give them to the two of us." ”
Hey, although this wedding is a "big loss", but looking at this pair of such sensible little couples, my heart is still as sweet as honey.
I have also figured it out, holding a wedding is just to be happy, to be lively, how can I be so careful? As long as everyone is happy, as long as my son's marriage can be happy in the future, I will be happy no matter how much money I lose. People say I think so, right?
Write at the end:
Aunt Zheng held a wedding for her son, with beautiful scenery and pomp, just hoping to have face and take back the gift that she had gone out with for so many years. But as a result, she spent 120,000 yuan, but only recovered 80,000 yuan in gift money, which seemed to be a big loss.
However, Aunt Zheng's son and daughter-in-law are sensible, and they don't want her as a gift, which also makes her feel very comforted. She also figured it out, as long as the wedding is beautiful, as long as everyone is happy, and as long as her son is happily married, she will not be uncomfortable.
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