Post-00s girls marry Pakistani boys, the wedding is like a ball, it is very lively, and all venues are divided into men and women

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2024-06-24 20:35Published in Jiangxi

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I am ZYF, I have been a treasure in the palm of my parents' hands since I was a child, and I am afraid of falling in my hand, and I am afraid of melting in my mouth. I didn't think there was anyone in this world who loved me more than my parents until I was 19 years old and met a Pakistani boy who was 7 years older than me.

He took care of me like a treasure, didn't let me suffer a little grievance, and tolerated all my shortcomings. Nourished by his love, I lived a carefree life.

His love and sincerity touched his parents, who had not approved of our relationship. After a year of dating, I registered my marriage at the age of 20.

(Our Wedding Photo)

I was born in Xingtai, Hebei Province in 2000, my parents are both employees of state-owned enterprises, and I have an older brother who is 6 years older than me.

My parents doted on me, they adhered to the principle that boys should be poor and girls should be rich, and I had what my brother had, and I still had what my brother didn't, so I developed a cheerful and outgoing personality.

When I was a child, my mother was very concerned about my education and helped me enroll in many extracurricular interest classes, such as painting, playing the piano, swimming, and dancing.

My dad socialized a lot and would take me to dinners and parties, and I learned a lot of social etiquette since I was a child. My dad also taught me a lot of things about how to be a human being.

I'm an extraordinarily introverted girl. When I was in elementary school, as long as a classmate was bullied, I would go to justice, which was simply the embodiment of justice. So, even though my academic performance was not very good, I was elected class president.

The junior high school is closed management, and the management is particularly strict, and loud talking is not allowed between classes. Each class will take turns on duty, stand guard in all corners of the school, and if there is a hook of shoulders and backs, points will be deducted, and the head teacher will also punish them.

(Me in high school)

But the school has a high progression rate, and almost all parents want their children to study in this school.

I don't study very hard, and my grades have always been at an intermediate level.

It turned out that I was the baby of the family and didn't have to do anything. After I came to school, I had to solve all the problems by myself, so my independence and autonomy were greatly exercised, and my mind matured a lot.

High school is also a closed school, and with the strict management of junior high school, high school no longer has the feeling of being stared at every second, and learning is not as hard as it was in junior high school. But at this time, my mind was not on studying, and I, like most girls who love beauty, began to learn to make up and dress up.

It wasn't until the third year of high school that I realized that I had to study, so I hurried up and took three exams. After all, I didn't put too much effort into studying, and I'm very satisfied with this result.

I'm 1.7 meters tall and I look pretty good. Originally, I wanted to apply for an aviation school to study flight attendant, but my mother also took me to an aviation school in Beijing for an interview, and I passed. But I was worried that the cultural performance was not up to standard, so I gave up early.

(I also love to chase stars like many boys and girls)

I couldn't learn flight attendant, I lost my goal, I didn't know what else to learn, so I had to let my parents decide. My mother thinks that girls should have a more stable career, and they should choose between accounting and medicine. I thought math was a lot of work, so I chose medicine. He came to a medical school in Langfang to study the clinical specialty of Chinese and Western medicine.

From the beginning of my enrollment, I was more active than the average student. When I was a child, my mother's extracurricular interests came in handy. My dance was a big hit at the orientation party, and many school leaders, teachers, and classmates remembered me. When it came time for military training, I became a team leader.

After the start of school, I became the secretary of the class. Since I like to do challenging things, the school club council recruited, and I signed up for the interview and passed it successfully. However, for the sake of fairness, the school stipulated that students who had positions in the class could not hold positions concurrently, and after weighing them, I gave up the position of class secretary.

(Volunteer at the university)

Unexpectedly, I ushered in a love affair in the midst of my hustle and bustle.

One afternoon, I was walking down the road in a college town when an electric car stopped beside me, and a handsome foreign boy appeared in front of me and asked if I could give me the contact information.

I just fell out of love and was in a time when I was depressed and couldn't extricate myself, so I didn't refuse, and I wanted to get myself out of my last relationship as soon as possible.

In order to forget the past as soon as possible, I didn't like to chat, and I interacted with this foreign boy frequently.

During the exchange, he sensed that I was feeling depressed and comforted me with warm and polite words. I felt a brotherly concern in him, and I immediately let down my guard and confided in him.

After I told my bad mood with a handful of snot and tears, my whole body stretched and I was much more relaxed all of a sudden.

After this incident, we had more contact, and slowly, I developed a liking for him.

One day at noon, he sent a video over, and I was startled because I was sleepy and had no makeup. I didn't want to appear in front of him as a sloppy image, so I quickly turned off the video, ran to the makeup table and quickly made up a few strokes for myself, and then called back, pretending that I was in a normal state that I hadn't cleaned up.

(Look how happy we laugh)

Later, he asked me out to meet me, took me to a western restaurant, and offered to have a relationship with me. Because I already knew him well and had a good impression of him, and he was also very handsome, I agreed to him without hesitation.

It was the first time we went out to eat and the first time we took a group photo. It was June 21, 2019, and I was 19 years old.

He is Pakistani, 7 years older than me, before coming to China, he lived in a small county, and he likes to watch Chinese movies very much, coupled with the friendship between China and Pakistan, he is very yearning for China.

In order to learn more about China, he came in 2018 by bus to find a job and learn Chinese in China alone.

He is a fitness worker, and after coming to China, he returned to his old business and also worked as a fitness coach.

After confirming the relationship, during the summer vacation, I called my best friend and a friend of his, and we went to Beidaihe together. Before leaving, he arranged everything clearly, didn't let me and my girlfriend spend a penny, and took care of us comfortably.

For the 19-year-old me, I was really amazed at his carefulness and understanding, and what he did did not match his age at all.

(May our love last forever)

Knowing that our students had no income, he also spent more than 1,000 yuan from time to time to invite all our dormitory students out for a big meal.

I'm a Pisces and very much in love. His mature charm mesmerized me.

Although I am young, I am very pure and dedicated to love, and when I fall in love, I am rushing to get married.

After some time, I confessed to my parents about my relationship. My parents were shocked, how could I fall in love with a foreigner, and the other party was still Pakistani. Then there was worry, in their impression, it was a poor and backward place, and I would definitely suffer if I married him.

My parents told me all about what I was worried about, but when they saw that I was already mad and couldn't convince me, they said to me, "You have to bear the consequences of your choice, and there's only so much we can say we can do." "I didn't say anything more.

Soon after, my parents came to see me at school. When my boyfriend found out, he wanted to invite them to dinner. In order to show his sincerity, he deliberately chose the Western restaurant where he confessed last time, because he felt that it was high-end and more formal.

On the way there, Mom and Dad walked in front. I wanted to take his hand and walk together, but he pushed me away, because in his opinion, my parents were too close to each other before they had explicitly agreed to our relationship, which would make them feel disgusted that their daughter had been snatched away. I thought at the time, how can he be more traditional than us Chinese.

(Cutting steak for my parents at the dinner table)

In this meeting, he behaved very well, all kinds of etiquette were in accordance with our Chinese rules, humble and polite, and his parents' opinion of him changed greatly. Knowing his personality and cultivation, his parents felt a lot more at ease, and their previous worries were reduced.

In 2020, I took him home for the first time, and when I heard that I brought my boyfriend home, even my grandparents came, and everyone looked at this quasi-foreign aunt with a skeptical attitude.

I taught him basic Chinese etiquette in advance, and he has been in China for many years, and he can also communicate in simple Chinese without any jokes. He is a fitness coach, and he has a good set of muscle relaxation and activation, helping his grandfather, father and mother massage and pinch their feet, and finally the family was all accepted by him.

With the approval of the family members, on September 7, 2020, we registered our marriage, and on June 9, 2023, the wedding was held in China.

In August 2023, we went back to Pakistan for our wedding.

He has multiple siblings and is a small family member, so the family spoils him.

In their country, because of religious issues, they rarely marry foreigners. But after he and I got along, my family didn't object much, and they were very relieved to say that the friendship between China and Pakistan is a historical witness.

It takes three days for a wedding to take place in Pakistan. The first day was Nika, which we went to the mosque when we were in China.

(Today I am the bride)

The next day was Mandy, and someone helped the bride with makeup, put on beautiful jewelry, put on beautiful clothes, draw some patterns on her hands, and then wipe something on her hands, and feed desserts, all of which were good rituals.

The girls over there are all thick eyebrows and big eyes, and the makeup is very thick and good-looking. But my face wasn't so three-dimensional, and I couldn't hold that kind of makeup, so I put on light makeup myself.

In Pakistan, there are fewer recreational activities. So getting married is like a festival, and the girls who attend the wedding will dress up and put their best clothes on their bodies. As a result, it is often difficult to tell who is the bride.

On the third day, a banquet will be held at the hotel. Their food is very seasoned and oily, but it tastes good.

Once these processes are done, the dancing begins. Maybe it's because they rarely have the opportunity to be so happy, it's very lively, like a ball.

Over there, men and women are separated for all occasions. When we got married, I didn't see any other men except the men in the family.

In Pakistan, women are required to wear headscarves. Originally, I could have left it out, but because I was married to a local foreigner, it was quite rare for them to come and watch. In order to reduce unnecessary trouble and for safety reasons, and they were too sunny, so I also wore a headscarf.

(I'm beautiful when I wear a headscarf)

In 2022, my husband left Langfang to work in Chengdu, and I interned in a hospital in Handan.

In Chengdu, I worked as a medical aesthetic sales person for a year and a half, and my husband didn't want me to work too hard, so I quit my job and prepared for pregnancy at home. In order to pass the time, we sometimes share our daily life of foreign marriage and love in the media, which has been loved and paid attention to by many netizens.

I am very happy now, my husband spoils me like a princess, and he likes small animals so he bought me two dogs; The salary was handed over to me as soon as it was paid; I was angry, and he apologized for whether it was right or wrong; He did all the housework, and I didn't even use the washing machine; Walking in the streets, always hold my hand, let me go the inner way, and not let the slightest danger threaten me; For my sake, I also decided to settle in China.

From the time I met and fell in love with my husband to the time I got married, some people have always expressed their incomprehension of my behavior, and even after I got married, many of my classmates and friends who had a good relationship were estranged from me.

I understand their discomfort and incomprehension, after all, it is a major change in my life, and this change is not in the realm of the world.

Although there will be a trace of loss and regret, I feel that life is always moving forward, we are all growing, I will not regret my choice because of the eyes of others, I know that as long as I am always happy, I will be understood and blessed.

[Dictator: ZYF]

[Author: Zi Yue]

[Editor: Xiaoqi]

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