In a family with many children, when taking care of and supporting parents, remember not to take care of everything.

Before the morning meeting, my colleague Daxia talked about the housework of providing for her parents.

Daxia has a younger brother.

For more than 20 years, the parents' food and clothing have all relied on Daxia's daughter.

Her mother has always done things for her brother's family.

The most foolish thing my mother did was to sell the old house and give the money to my younger brother to buy a house in the county seat.

The younger brother gave his mother a palm-sized space in a corner of the living room to live in.

As the mother grew older, she was finally no longer able to help them.

This year, the younger brother and his wife began to pick up their 88-year-old mother.

In the end, he actually resorted to the trick of cutting off water, electricity, and gas for his mother.

Even in this case, the mother is still on the phone all day long, complaining about her daughter's incompetence and not giving her brother enough financial support, which leads to her being wronged now.

Her husband's job was found by her husband, and she paid for the fertilizer in the family's orchard.

The younger brother borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from her and didn't pay it back, and the mother still felt that her daughter had a lot of money and gave too little to her younger brother.

Now, Daxia wants to raise her mother alone.

The mother was still resolutely unwilling, feeling that she had given everything to her younger son, and she was at a loss.

Daxia said: Now that I have figured it out, I will no longer feel sorry for my mother's situation, I will buy all kinds of daily necessities and nutritional products for her on Meituan every once in a while, and give her bank card money, I will do my duty and have a clear conscience.

In the morning, I met my cousin Daping at the vegetable market.

I asked, "How is my aunt doing now?" Still living in your house?

Ohira cried all at once.

It turned out that my aunt had been contributing money and efforts to her son's family before, and she gave her son a house early and helped buy a new house.

For 20 years, my aunt has been living with her son, and she also takes it for granted that her son's home is her own home, and hopes that her son can provide for her when he is old.

But ten years ago, my aunt had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage.

After trying her best to save her, my aunt still had the sequelae of hemiplegia.

Although Da Ping often went to take care of her, her aunt was kicked out by her son before the Spring Festival of that year and was not allowed to enter the door again.

When my cousin found out about this situation, she took her mother to her own home and took care of her alone.

For so many years, my cousin cried and was sad every day.

She said that she lived with her daughter, and she felt guilty for letting her provide for her old age, and she didn't live her life.

The cousin said, "My daughter's home is your home, and I should provide for you in old age."

In the past ten years, in order to take care of his mother, Daping has never gone out to earn money, and he relies on his husband to earn money to support the family.

Ohira's son also graduated from technical school this year and got a job.

The family has no money to buy a house for their son.

Ohira really wants his brother to share the burden of taking care of his mother, so that he can go out to work and earn money.

What Daping didn't expect was that his brother said: "Our mother still has hundreds of thousands of private money, where are you, if you take it out, I will take my mother over. If you don't take it out, you can raise it yourself."

At that moment, Da Ping was stunned, and he didn't believe it, these words came from his brother's mouth.

Daping has raised his mother for so many years, and he has contributed his own money, and he can't go out to work to earn money, and now his brother is still beating up, saying that she is greedy for her mother's hundreds of thousands of private money.

Da Ping was very angry, so he told his aunt about these things.

After hearing this, my aunt didn't take a breath and had a cerebral hemorrhage again.

Ohira calls his brother.

The elder brother said: "You are really not a thing, you swallowed all the money of the old lady, and now you have made the old lady angry and have a cerebral hemorrhage, you can show the old lady yourself."

Daping said: "I really can't imagine that after serving my mother for ten years, I have now become a sinner for the ages, you don't want to learn from me, you can support your parents alone, take care of everything, and in the end you will not be left behind!"

The fact that Daping supported his mother alone touched me deeply.

In real life, once the old man is pushed out by the eccentric child in his old age, a hole is poked in their hearts.

They felt powerless, and they had words of suffering, and they were reluctant to let this child's reputation be damaged, so they could only break their teeth and swallow tears.

And other children, no matter how well they do, can't make up for the loopholes in the hearts of the elderly.

As children who have been neglected by the elderly, we can forgive the partiality of the elderly.

They are also first-time parents, and they may also have to have five fingers sticking out is really not ordinarily long.

They are our parents after all.

Every old man's old age will be full of difficulties, and all we can do is to treat the elderly well.

There is a saying: Home is not a place to be reasonable, in fact, it is because some people rely on the love of their families to take advantage of them and play all the scoundrels, and others have nothing to do with him.

But if in society, because no one is used to him, he becomes reasonable.

The older I get, the more I feel that all conflicts between parents and children stem from the unfair behavior of parents. In the end, they themselves are victims and the initiators of family discord.

In real life, many people's great grievances stem from their own responsibilities to others.

You have done what others should do, and you have taken responsibility for others, so that others cannot be filial to their parents.

From this point of view, you are truly a sinner through the ages.

When you take care of your parents, you will always live under the judgment of other children and the elderly themselves, they are in a group, and even isolate you.

Therefore, in a family with many children, to take care of and support parents, remember to remember: you must not take care of everything.

Because of your unconditional giving, most of the things you get in the end are against each other.

Because everyone's thinking and pattern are different, your big package, in their opinion, is that you must have a plan.

In the end, it will leave you scarred and cold.