The best way to take revenge on a person is not to turn the other cheek, but to use these 3 psychological effects. In life, we will inevitably meet some people who make us feel dissatisfied or hurt, and we will have thoughts of wanting revenge. However, flip-flops and direct conflicts often don't really solve the problem, but can make the situation worse. On the contrary, with some psychological effects, we can deal with these situations more skillfully and achieve better results.
The first psychological effect is the "halo effect". The halo effect is when we have a good or bad impression of a certain aspect of a person, and we tend to infer other aspects of the person's characteristics from this. If we want to take revenge on someone, we can use this effect to make the other person know and evaluate us in a new way by showing our excellence and success in certain aspects. For example, if the other person has laughed at our abilities, we can work hard to improve our skills and achieve certain results in related fields, so that the other person has to re-examine us. When they see our progress and achievements, that once scornful and ridiculed may turn into doubt and uneasiness about themselves, which can frustrate them more than direct quarrels and conflicts.
The second psychological effect is the "Pygmalion effect". The Pygmalion effect refers to the fact that people will unconsciously accept influences and cues from people they like, admire, trust, and adore. We can use this effect to make them have a positive evaluation and impression of us by building a good relationship with the people around them. When these positive comments reach the other person's ears, they may begin to rethink their own perception of us. In addition, we can also influence the people around us through our positive attitudes and behaviors to create a positive atmosphere. In such an atmosphere, the other person may feel that their negative attitudes and behaviors seem out of place, resulting in a certain amount of pressure and reflection.
The third psychological effect is the "soapy water effect". The soapy effect refers to sandwiching criticism of others with praise, reducing the negative effects of criticism and making the criticized person happily accept criticism of themselves. If we want to make the other person realize their mistakes, rather than simply retaliating for the sake of revenge, we can do this way. First of all, we can find some of the strengths and strengths of the other person and give praise and affirmation sincerely. Then, when appropriate, ask the other person's questions and shortcomings in a tactful way and give some constructive suggestions. In this way, the other party will be more receptive to our opinions, and at the same time, they will develop a sense of admiration for our generosity and reason.
Of course, we need to be clear that revenge is not the best way to solve problems, and in most cases, tolerance and understanding are the wiser options. By using these psychological effects, we do not really want to hurt the other person, but hope to be able to deal with conflicts and conflicts in a more intelligent and mature way, to free ourselves from negative emotions, and at the same time to prompt the other person to reflect and change.
For example, Xiao Li and Xiao Wang used to be colleagues, but Xiao Wang excluded and framed Xiao Li because of some interest issues, so that Xiao Li lost an important promotion opportunity. Xiao Li was very angry and wanted to take revenge on Xiao Wang. But after he calmed down, he decided to use the psychological effects mentioned above to deal with the problem.
Xiao Li first worked hard to improve his work ability, and achieved outstanding results in another project, which was highly praised by the company's leaders. This made Xiao Wang begin to have a new understanding of Xiao Li's ability, and also made him feel a little uneasy about his past behavior.
Then, Xiao Li took the initiative to build good relationships with other colleagues, and his optimistic and positive attitude won everyone's love and respect. These positive comments reached Xiao Wang's ears, and he began to realize that his image among his colleagues may have been affected.
Finally, in a team meeting, Xiao Li first affirmed Xiao Wang's work results in some aspects, and then tactfully put forward some suggestions for improvement. Although Xiao Wang was a little embarrassed, he had to admit that Xiao Li's suggestion was reasonable. In these ways, Xiao Li not only freed himself from anger and resentment, but also allowed Xiao Wang to reflect on his own behavior, while also establishing a better image among his colleagues.
In conclusion, when we are confronted with people who make us unhappy, do not be swayed by emotions, but learn to use the psychological effect to deal with problems in a more rational and mature way. In this way, we will not only be able to avoid getting ourselves into unnecessary trouble and conflict, but we will also be better able to protect our interests and dignity. But at the same time, we must always remind ourselves that tolerance and understanding are the cornerstones of building a harmonious interpersonal relationship, and only through positive communication and mutual respect can we truly solve problems and achieve mutual growth and progress.