Hello, I'm Yang Xiaoqian. A post-80s generation who focuses on personal growth and mental improvement
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Some women feel that marriage is like armor.
When she meets someone who loves her, it seems that he is like an umbrella that can help her resist everything and be carefree from now on.
However, I don't know that a man's heart can be disguised.
Some love is like a quagmire. After a woman is deeply involved, she expects too much and relies too much, but she will be disappointed, she will lose, and her life will get worse and worse.
Women, after the age of thirty, find out that they have found the wrong person, so they "cope".
01. Quit expectations and stop relying on the wrong people
My cousin obeyed her parents' arrangement and found a man from a good family to marry.
But not long after the marriage, she found out that the man had betrayed her. Since then, he has refused to listen to his advice, and he is unwilling to hand over the family's money to his cousin to manage.
Men go home less and less, in-laws have a hard time getting along, and my cousin gradually loses confidence in managing her marriage.
In order to change her adversity, she no longer expects anything from him and no longer depends on her.
Now she has her own career and regained her value in life. Men don't want to divorce her anymore.
Men are not the only reliance, let alone the guarantee of a woman's happiness in the second half of her life.
After marriage, women are too dependent on men, like boiling frogs in warm water. Unconsciously, you will lose your combat effectiveness.
Hayao Miyazaki said: "Don't rely on one person easily, it will become your habit, and when separation comes, you will not lose someone, but your spiritual support." ”
After the age of thirty, if you find that you love the wrong person, don't think that he can bring you a happier life.
Don't always please him, but straighten your back, improve yourself, and be able to take charge of yourself. Whoever you leave, you can continue to live well.
02. Don't be frustrated, replan your future
The marriages of Luo Zijun and Luo Ziqun sisters in "The First Half of My Life" are not happy.
Luo Zijun is husband who betrayed her, and Luo Ziqun is that her husband is too lazy to support the burden of the family.
The two sisters chose completely different paths, and the results were also different.
After Luo Zijun's divorce, he came out of the pain of the past and began to stand up again.
Through hard work and self-improvement, she has become better and better, and has won the favor of better men, and has more choices in life.
And Luo Ziqun feels that unhappy marriages are the norm. Even if you are divorced, you may not be able to find a better person. It's better to just settle for it and choose to accept fate.
The pressure on her is increasing, and life has become an ordeal.
After reaching the age of 30, you find that you love the wrong person, and you must learn to stop losses in time.
Love is just a part of life, it is not your whole life.
Yishu said in "The First Half of My Life": "My destination is health and talent, after all, what a person can trust is himself, and it is himself who can raise his eyebrows for him." ”
The most terrible thing for a woman is not to meet the wrong person and marry him. The terrible thing is that the woman is worn out by the painful life and loses her confidence.
If you love the wrong person, you must learn to save yourself from fire and water and start over. Give yourself the courage to face everything alone and plan a better path in life.
03. Study hard, grow, and make yourself strong
There is such a sentence in the book, which says: "No matter when, be a good girl who is not improvised, not discounted, not cheap, not bad." ”
Women, remember: no one can be your long-term meal ticket, and no one is obliged to ensure that you eat and drink for the rest of your life.
Love will slowly fade, and people who love each other will eventually become strangers. Even if you are reluctant, remember that love can go bad.
Don't be humble because of love, don't be able to live well because of who has left your world.
Don't believe the promises made to you by anyone, don't give up on your abilities, and choose to stop.
When you love the wrong person, let yourself study hard and grow.
Don't live too lazy and don't trust men's promises too much. The only thing that can be relied on in this world is yourself, which is an immutable truth.
Maintain an independent personality, always be positive, believe that you can do better, and you can live a chic and comfortable life by yourself.
04. Conclusion
Women, when you become stronger, you will have more options.
If you want a man to give more for you and have a stronger love for you, then you must be stronger.
Especially, when you find out that you love the wrong person, you must learn to plan for yourself and make yourself strong. The better you are, the more you can control your life and get your own happiness.
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Xiao Qian: A writer who loves words, loves words, and codes words for ten years. In his spare time, he will meet friends with words. For the rest of my life, with you by my side, life will be steaming.