When facing major events in life, some people will be very nervous and even feel scared, which will lead to the idea of withdrawing and avoiding.
Just like some people will be afraid of exams, some people will be afraid of getting married because they don't know what their married life will be like, they don't know how they will behave in marriage, and these uncertainties will make them feel fearful and avoid getting married.
There is such a story, when a man and his girlfriend went to get a marriage certificate, his girlfriend suddenly changed his mind and was reluctant to go in, and the man's hard persuasion was ineffective, so he had no choice but to carry her and leave.
The man and his girlfriend have been in love for a year, which is logically not long, but they decided to get married.
The reason why he is going to get married so soon is because the man is worried about long nights and dreams, and if he doesn't get married sooner, he is afraid of missing out on someone as good as his girlfriend.
With the man's conditions, it is his blessing that he can find someone with good conditions like his girlfriend, and the man also knows his flaws, so he is grateful that his girlfriend does not dislike him.
Although his family is in the city, the family conditions are very bad, starting from his father's generation, his family is in the middle, and he originally lived in a house in the city center, but because his father was in debt, he sold it.
After the money from the sale of the house paid off the debt, there was only 20,000 yuan left, when he was still young, he had to go to school and nutrition, his father was unemployed, and his mother was a housewife, so they could only rent a small house in an urban village to live.
My father was too lazy to do it, and even if life was like this, he didn't want to find a job to earn money, and my mother couldn't stand it, so she went to the factory to find a job as a cook.
His mother earns 2,500 yuan a month to support his father and him, and he has always been in a living environment where there is not enough money to spend.
Because his family had no money, he dropped out of school at a very young age to work, and without a skill, he could only do odd jobs, earning dozens of yuan a day, and sometimes he would have no income if he couldn't find a job.
When he was twenty years old, his mother looked at him and sighed: Alas, what if such a good son can't marry a daughter-in-law.
He didn't speak, because he hadn't thought about marrying a daughter-in-law at that time, and in his impression, married people must be willing to accompany each other for a lifetime because they like each other.
He felt that he could meet the right person in his life, he was still young and not in a hurry.
But life has made him understand a lot of things and understand a lot of truths, such as two people can get married not only because they like each other, but also because they use each other, and more often women care about whether men have economic conditions.
After comparing his own conditions, he has no hope for marrying a daughter-in-law, he is in his twenties and still lives in a small house in an urban village with his parents, what else can he do?
Although he has no hope of getting married, deep down he still longs for love and longs for himself to be favored by others.
That day soon came, and he met a girl at work, and the girl developed a crush on him, and after getting acquainted, she showed her affection for him.
He was stunned and didn't believe that anyone would look up to him, so he blinked and asked, "What you said is true?" You like me?
Receiving the woman's affirmative answer again, he was flattered and immediately agreed to fall in love with her.
He is an honest man, although his girlfriend really likes him, he doesn't want to hide it, and he still confesses the poverty of his family.
He took his girlfriend home, crossed a small alley from the bustling city, walked around the corner to a dilapidated house cluster, and after twisting and turning, he stood in front of a house as tall as him and said: This is my house, it is rented.
The man's mother warmly entertained his girlfriend, who was stunned for a moment, but quickly behaved naturally, chatting very happily with the man's mother, looking like a mother and daughter.
After leaving his house, the man asked uneasily: You know what my house is like, do you still want to be with me?
My girlfriend replied without thinking about it: What I like is you, I don't care what your family is like, as long as you work hard in logistics, our days will get better and better.
The man was very moved when he heard this, and he was also very grateful that his girlfriend did not dislike him, he never thought that one day he would be cherished by a person like this.
At that time, he had the idea of marrying his girlfriend home, but at that time they had only been together for three months, and he was worried that the marriage would scare his girlfriend, so he could only suppress the excitement in his heart.
Since then, he has thought about getting married, although he doesn't have much money, but he wants to give his girlfriend an unforgettable wedding, which means he has to work harder to earn money.
When he was in love for half a year, he proposed to visit his girlfriend's parents and tell them about the situation at home in advance, so that they could be mentally prepared, and in case they didn't agree at that time, he could also think of a way to deal with it earlier.
What he didn't expect was that his girlfriend's parents didn't dislike his family background, and said that if they got married, they would buy them a house in the city, and they didn't have to worry about money.
It was like he had arrived in heaven, and he couldn't believe that he was so lucky to meet someone who would treat him with sincerity and solve all the troubles that followed.
On the first anniversary of their relationship, he formally proposed to his girlfriend, and his girlfriend happily agreed, they hugged each other, and his girlfriend said shyly: I have been waiting for this day for a long time, why do you say.
The next day, they made an appointment to get a marriage certificate, but at the last minute, his girlfriend changed her mind and said that she would not go in.
He thought it was strange, and then after thinking about it, he asked: Do you regret it? I don't want to live a hard life with me, in fact, I also understand that if you don't want to get married, we'll break up.
When his girlfriend heard him say this, she stomped her feet in a hurry, and explained anxiously: Oh, I'm not sorry, I'm afraid, do you think we can manage a good marriage?
After listening to his girlfriend's words, he understood that his girlfriend was "afraid of marriage", so he patiently persuaded him: Don't be afraid, I will be sincere to you after marriage, as long as our hearts are always together, it will be no problem.
Seeing this, the girlfriend still hesitated, looking very entangled, and the man no longer persuaded him, but walked to his girlfriend, grabbed her hands and wanted to pull her in.
But his girlfriend hadn't thought it through yet, and retreated hard, and the two of them were like tug-of-war, and neither of them would admit defeat.
The harder he pushed, the more his girlfriend resisted, and his girlfriend was so anxious that he shouted: You let go of my hand and give me time to think about it.
How could there be time for her to think that getting married was to be done in one go, and he was worried that his girlfriend would change her mind, so he walked to her without saying a word, picked her up and left.
His girlfriend leaned on his shoulder and complained: You let me down and let me go by myself. He turned a deaf ear, and he didn't care what the people around him thought, and he kept carrying his girlfriend in before stopping.
Author's point of view: A man and his girlfriend are genuinely in love, and marriage is the best outcome for them, but a woman's mind is sensitive and considerate, and it is understandable that she feels scared before getting married.
Since they have not been in love for a long time, of course the girlfriend will think a little more, for her, the life after marriage is uncertain, she does not know whether she can be a good wife after marriage, nor does she know whether a man can be a good husband, I don't know what kind of married life they will usher in.
When she thinks of this, she feels timid, and she is afraid of getting married, so she will have the idea of withdrawing.
Men's response is quick and direct, since they are truly in love, they must trust each other, hesitation will only complicate things and may even lead to bad results.