Good evening, family. In the blink of an eye, it is already the eighth day of the new year, and with the start of most of our friends yesterday, this year is over.
I don't know if everyone is still happy in the New Year? According to my observation, many couples have quarreled during this Spring Festival, especially those who have not been together for the New Year.
The New Year is not only a big holiday, but also a small holiday that needs to get along with the family, during which couples in different places will have various conflicts if they are not careful.
The first hurdle for young couples is to send red envelopes. Chinese New Year's Eve opened the Little Red Book and Douban casually brushed on the same day, and eight of the ten posts were discussing the issue of red envelopes. There are people who are angry because their boyfriends have not sent red envelopes, there are those who are unhappy because their boyfriends have too few red envelopes, and some have exchanged red envelopes with their boyfriends, but when they see others in the circle of friends receive larger red envelopes, they are unbalanced and have small emotions.
Sending a red envelope would have been a very happy thing, but I don't know how many couples have made a fuss about this little thing.
Compare less with people and feel more about yourself in the process of getting along. A person is good or not for you, happy or unwilling to pay is usually able to feel, not necessarily reflected in the holiday such a moment. Moreover, the payment is mutual, and the feelings of coming and going can be long-lasting.
There are also contradictions caused by ignoring the other half because the festival is too busy. The boyfriend is too slow to reply to the message, the talking person is gone, the girlfriend goes out to play without answering the phone, can cause a quarrel.
It is not difficult to understand, usually can often meet, the two people of course have a good relationship. Not in a city during the holidays, the physical distance can easily make people feel insecure. Once the other party does not reply to the message in time, or forgets to inform the itinerary, it is inevitable that it will be wild and create a crisis of trust.
But most people do not go home for the New Year and are not idle all the time, but to spend time with their families, to visit relatives with their parents, or to party with friends who can only meet once or twice a year. Anyway, I went home for the New Year almost every day, often one second still chatting with the object, the next second was called by my mother to help.
But even so, before you want to do something, you should also say hello to the other party in advance, and if you don't reply to the message in time for a while, you need to explain it clearly to the other party.
Talking about love does not need to be stuck together at all times, it does not hurt to be busy when two people are separated, keep in touch and do not play missing, understand each other, and perhaps many contradictions can be avoided.
Not only between couples, but also many people will quarrel with their parents when they come home in the New Year. The two generations have different concerns, many different views, and it is easy to quarrel if the emotions are not well controlled. After arguing with the family, the mood is very bad, and the atmosphere will be affected even when communicating with the object.
Everyone may be different when facing an emotional black hole, some people are used to self-regulation, and some people will want to talk to intimate people at the first time.
My advice for this situation is that if he is willing to talk to you, it also means that you are a trustworthy person in his heart. At this time, you can adjust your mentality, give comfort in time, and try not to be affected by negative emotions. Mobilize your emotions, communicate with him in a relaxed tone, and help him get rid of bad emotions.
If the other person wants to self-digest, give him some time and space, and at the same time have confidence in your relationship, and come back to you when he regulates his emotions.
Of course, because of the family affairs of the negative emotions of the party, but also try not to be too cold to the other half, you can briefly explain the situation first, at least do not let the other party think about it. Mature lovers will try their best to avoid passing on their emotions to the other half, affecting the relationship between the two people.
The issue of feelings is also not so complicated, no matter what the situation, you can honestly express your thoughts and needs. Again, effective communication can solve 90% of the problems between couples.
This year is over, and the old contradictions do not need to be brought to the new year. The beginning of the year and harmony, this year will be smooth and smooth, I hope that all friends in the New Year feelings and career can make good luck!
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