"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
author：Night Orchid
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
It is often said that in the end we live to be what we hate.
Fitzgerald, author of The Great Gatsby, in his autobiographical novel "Gentle Nights," describes how Dick Daever degenerated from a gifted, idealistic, and spirited young talent into a drunken, disillusioned, split personality, until a mental breakdown, becoming hated by everyone.
This is Fitzgerald's last novel, and like the protagonist, after middle age, the writer exhausts his life in a day of alcoholism.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Human cubs are innocent and cute, and young people have the courage to break with tradition and forge ahead, but once they reach middle age, most of them live as the opposite of their youth.
How do we live the kind of people we once hated the most?
In "Gentle night," Fitzgerald explores this emotional and mental breakdown.
Poor Dick Davor, a young and promising doctor with ambitions to become the greatest psychologist of all time, his wife Nicole is very wealthy and suffers from schizophrenia due to being violated by her father.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
After marriage, he spent all his energy on caring for his sick wife, and his career gradually became deserted. Nicole slowly recovers under Dick's careful care and lives a normal life, while Dick becomes increasingly exhausted and depressed.
He was originally young and promising, but for more than a decade, he accompanied his wife into the high society of drunkenness and gold fans, and his medical skills did not progress, and the planned academic works could not be completed.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Finally, in the increasingly decadent and depressed middle age, he met 18-year-old Hollywood actress Ruth Marie and had a fruitless emotional entanglement.
Later, the wife is well, but falls in love with today, a rich man with supreme money, and divorces, and Ruth Mary also becomes a Hollywood star and turns away.
As the grade increases, other people's lives are rising, only Dick's life is declining; others are gaining, and Dick is losing.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Dick, who suffered a midlife crisis, became the complete opposite of his youth.
This book is a profound exploration of what makes us inevitably become the annoying teenagers.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > thirty and forty not confused. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. </h1>
Due to the epidemic, the process of contradictions has been accelerated, the living environment has deteriorated, the leadership has become more and more violent, and colleagues have gradually fallen in love with each other, and my friends have tangled up with me: "In the future, when I encounter such a thing, will I help or not help?" ”
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
He also said: "If you have to carry the pot for help, I will still sneak around like others to make a surface!" ”
I said without hesitation, of course help. We can't learn to be bad because others are bad, and then become what we used to hate.
After saying this, I suddenly realized that when we were young, we were pure, kind and self-disciplined, but in middle age, most of us became the kind of people we once hated. The reasons for this are:
In the torment of the years, we were injured, but while licking the wounds, we sharpened the knife in our hearts, so that hatred, revenge, indifference, and selfishness gradually filled our hearts, and unconsciously, we became the kind of people we once hated the most.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Therefore, always resisting the harm from the environment, and keeping the original intention unaffected in these injuries, is the best way to overcome the negative emotions falling into decadence.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the departure from the track of life is the beginning of depravity. </h1>
Dick, who once wanted to be the greatest psychologist of all time, devoted all his enthusiasm to it as a young man, but was tempted by high society to marry a rich woman with mental illness and was corrupted by money after marriage.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
He once wanted to maintain financial independence, but the income from his hard work was insignificant compared to the property given by his wife, and Dick, who had lost his fighting spirit, hovered at the crossroads of life, and his psychology gradually became unbalanced.
Once empty, desire flourishes in the name of making up for everything.
Dick started drinking, he started cheating, and what did we start doing in life?
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Maybe some people become addicted to games, or addicted to gambling, or drug addiction, or playthings lose their minds, and some people begin to cheat in search of excitement, and even go to the truth of crime.
When people reach middle age, they cannot withstand the temptation, lose the direction of struggle for it, and go to depravity.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > too romantic, heroic (virgin spirit), unrealistically too much faith in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. </h1>
In fact, sometimes, you can't even save yourself.
Like Gatsby, Dick paid a heavy price for his kindness and innocence.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Dick dedicates himself to love and allows the upper class to accept him temporarily. To this end, he not only gave up his research work and took full care of Nicole, but also forced himself to adapt to the lifestyle of high society and try to meet the living standards of high society.
He wanted to make himself appear more noble, more upright, more elegant, and more personable than the upper class.
He dedicated his kindness and warmth to others in that circle of life. But in a money-worshipping society, in the face of an insatiable selfish class, Dick is just a don quixote.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
Dick's dedication and heroism only touched him.
In the eyes of Nicole's family, Dick was just a doctor, a doctor they hired with money; Dick's marriage to Nicole was just a deal.
Therefore, Dick was simply doing his duty and doing what he was supposed to do. In the words of Nicole's sister, "He was educated to be entitled to take care of you." ”
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
How pathetic! Dick's talent was worth nothing to them.
Choosing an unequal marriage and betraying his dignity, Dick has completely become a "hollow man" and has no way out.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life needs to be introspective everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full. </h1>
Only to keep the heart full, not to let the heart wither in the passage of time.
"Gentle Night": When people reach middle age, how can they avoid living like they once hated, standing forty and forty. Most people in middle age will inevitably be disillusioned with their ideals, and it is inevitable that they will be harmed by evil, and in this kind of evil thought, we unconsciously hate and retaliate, and we also learn to do evil and become more and more hateful. The disillusionment of dreams, the loss of reason, and the deviation from the track of life are the beginning of depravity. Too romantic, too heroic (the spirit of the Virgin), unrealistically too much belief in the power of love, thinking that you can save everything, is the beginning of a deviation from the ideal. Remember: the door to self-abandonment will open, so life requires self-examination everywhere. In the process of self-examination, we correct the chaos, constantly correct the heart, and keep the heart full.
In the passage of time, people will have a sense of emptiness of life, if there is no rich inner world without resistance, this huge sense of nothingness, people will become normal on the outside, but shrink in the heart of the "hollow man".
In our free time, think about it: How will we spend the rest of our lives and how will we survive in this multitude of worlds?
We work hard to study, get into college, work, start a family, raise children... And then what?
In any case, it is sad to live like you once hated.
Waking up from a dream, the night was so gentle, but there was no light here. Gentle Night was written by Fitzgerald (1896–1940), an American novelist. representative...
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