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CPPCC member Xu Hongling once suggested that every parent hold a certificate and hold a preparatory school in the community, which has aroused heated discussion.
Many netizens expressed great approval of this. After all, when a teacher has to examine, driving has to be examined, and raising children, is it not worth learning from parents?
Kotaro Isaka once said that it was terrible that parents did not need exams.
Regardless of whether the existence of parent schools is reasonable or not, the public's reaction reflects at least one problem, that is, too many Chinese have been hurt in family education and school education.
Parents who don't learn are struggling to raise children, and teachers who don't read are trying desperately to teach. Although it is too exaggerated, it is not unreasonable to combine the current situation of adolescent growth.
Parents stubbornly teach their children according to their own standards, and teachers teach students with the same standards, which is the current situation of education.
Hardship education
The most typical Chinese educational ideology is hardship education, and in ancient times Mencius was born in distress and died in comfort. Modern celebrity inspirational stories are full of their experiences of frustration before success, saying that if they can't suffer hardships, they can't become talented. Therefore, parents have burst out all kinds of wonderful ideas in creating setbacks for their children.
For example, Lejia once shared the experience of her 4-year-old daughter's desert hiking, walking 76 kilometers in 4 days and walking out of a full leg rash. When her daughter was 6 years old, she was sent to the Shaolin Temple, and asked the master to be cruel to her, so that she could learn to persevere and not give up halfway.
Lejia wants to exercise her daughter's ability to face suffering, but the little girl may exercise her ability to endure her father's torture. Suffering in the midst of suffering and being a superior person is the biggest lie in Chinese family education.
The most important thing in a person's life is setbacks. Wu Zhihong said that children do not need setback education, but artificially created and attached setbacks will only cause harm.
The so-called setback education is to learn the courage to face setbacks and the ability to solve problems. Parents focus all their attention on setbacks, thinking that the more setbacks there are, the stronger people become, which is completely inverted. These sufferings will only make people feel scarred, their hearts full of despair for the future, full of distrust of their parents, and eventually lose the ability to love themselves.
Big Parent Thoughts
Ancient China was a typical patriarchal society, with three principles and five constants, father and son, monarch and subject husband and wife, benevolence, righteousness, wisdom and faith. Today's society still has not shaken off this cultural brand. The so-called percussion education is just a cover for maintaining the authority of parents.
In the program "Where Daddy Goes", there is a link in blindly selecting a house based on numbers, and Yang Shuo's son Yang Yuchen wants to choose No. 5 because No. 5 is his lucky number. Yang Shuo immediately expressed his dissatisfaction, No. 5 is your lucky number, but No. 1 is my lucky number, hindering face, or listening to my son's ideas.
When he found that his son chose No. 5 as the worst house, Yang Shuo immediately felt that he occupied the moral high ground, and Yin and Yang angrily mocked Yang Yuchen. Such ridicule and repression exist in every detail of life. Yang Yuchen's clothes were not sorted out, he did not walk fast enough, his posture was eight, his clothes were folded slowly, and so on, he would be mercilessly ridiculed by his father.
Yang Shuo said in an interview that he was strict in order to make his child grow into a man. But the essence of this behavior is to suppress the child's self-esteem and raise the majesty of the parent to ensure absolute dominance in the family. Education based on selfish ideas will naturally not benefit children.
In contradiction with repressive education, parents take great care of their children. "You don't have to care about anything except learning", don't let you do housework, don't let you take responsibility, do things that are sorry for others, and choose to cover up at the first time. Children can rely on their parents unconditionally, but it is difficult for them to learn to face life independently.
Grade-first education
After thousands of years of development, we must recognize the rationality of test-taking education. It can improve people's basic quality on a large scale. Certain discipline can make people get rid of animality, better adapt to social life, and realize self-worth. But the current test-taking education is an excessive extension of discipline. The management of modern schools in China is highly similar to that of prisons.
How to walk, how to sit, how to take things when walking, how to answer questions, and even how to wash your hands after going to the toilet, there are strict rules. If a classmate seriously violates discipline, he will be reported and criticized, and if he is serious, he will be punished with a penalty of standing, copying or withdrawing from school.
Schools are a small society with distinct classes, and the criterion for grading is academic performance. After each exam, there is a ranking, and the top students have the right to sit in the front row or choose their seats freely, and receive honors and material rewards for public recognition.
The highest measure of a student's quality is academic performance, and if the grades are good enough, then even if they are not disciplined, they will be considered good students. The standard of good school is the promotion rate, whether it is students or teachers, the pursuit of grades has reached a crazy situation.
A professor's speech is deafening, we desperately let our children survive the current college entrance examination, but does he have the ability to survive the big test of life? Pointing to the pain points of education.
epilogue:
China's feudal history is very long, the idea of extinguishing human desires, self-denial and retribution runs through our culture, the idea of extinguishing desires and getting rid of the original self is deeply imprinted in our genes, and the concept of loyalty, filial piety, benevolence and righteousness is also integrated into the education of each generation.
In the family, it is reflected that the parents have the highest power, the children's opinions have no weight, and their power is too weak. Accidentally injuring the father is framed as naughty, scribbled and scribbled will be given corporal punishment, no appetite or forced to eat, no adult rights, but used as an adult standard requirements. This is the reason why educational progress is difficult, because the protagonists hardly speak, and their parents are reluctant to change.
Chinese has a strong herd mentality, a macho father, it is difficult to put down his dignity and face for the happiness of his family, because he does not want to be despised and ridiculed by outsiders. The stronger the cultural environment, the stronger this discipline will be.
But the way to change the status quo is very easy, that is, to start with a small family, to start with respect for the personality of the child, and to carry out equal guided education.
It may not be able to save all children, but it can make their children live a happy childhood, and the next generation of children will be happier because of a more perfect education.
Children who come out of imperfect families can try to change their status quo and learn to be good parents. Those students who come out of exam-oriented education can try to improve their new educational concepts and become good teachers.
Tradition gives us the confidence to survive, but innovative ideas and people-oriented concepts will make society continue to move forward.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).