There is a saying that says:
Marriage is a mistake, divorce is awakening, and remarriage is obsession.
The difficulty of remarriage is several levels higher than that of first marriage, because there are many people involved and the relationships involved are complex, and if it is not handled well, it is easier to fall into the abyss of pain.
Reader Wang Juan said that she had only remarried for two years, and she already had a deep sense of powerlessness in this marriage, because her mother-in-law always compared her with her husband's ex-wife, and always looked down on her.
She wanted to use time and patience to warm her mother-in-law's heart, but she was afraid that she would not last until that day. Divorce, I can't pull the child, I will just get by, and I feel very painful.
One
Regarding remarriage, Wang Juan has imagined many problems, such as how to get along with her husband's daughter, how to balance the relationship between her children and her husband's daughter, and how to be a qualified mother and stepmother, but she just didn't expect that the problem after her remarriage was actually her mother-in-law.
At the time of the divorce, Wang Juan was 36 years old, a relatively urgent age, and Wang Juan's desire to remarry was not strong, but after experiencing the death of her mother and her father's remarriage, Wang Juan had a great impulse to remarry. She didn't want to be alone for the rest of her life.
So, when the man appeared in front of her, Wang Juan showed unprecedented initiative.
The man is 4 years older than her, has a house, a car, a stable job, and no bald belly, which is a very high-quality blind date. Although I have a daughter, my daughter is only five or six years old, and she has a grandmother to help take care of her, so it is not a minus.
The man is also very satisfied with Wang Juan, although Wang Juan has an average income, she has her own house, she is also beautiful, her personality is also very quiet, and her son is given to her ex-husband, and there is no too heavy burden.
The two of them had the intention of having a concubine, and quickly rolled the sheets, and then quickly entered the process of remarriage.
In this process, Wang Juan, who is afraid of missing out on high-quality men, is more dominant. And this also became a reason for her mother-in-law to find fault with her later.
Two
Wang Juan's mother-in-law is a single mother and a strong and capable woman who has always raised men alone.
Because of this, after Wang Juan remarried, she faced two dilemmas: first, her mother-in-law lived with them. Second, mother-in-law likes hard-working and capable women, and Wang Juan is obviously not this hanging.
According to the man, the mother-in-law and the man's ex-wife get along very well and the relationship has always been harmonious. The man's ex-wife is also very smart and capable, working hard all the way from an ordinary undergraduate to working in the world's top 500, and she is very hard-working and enterprising. And these character traits are exactly what the mother-in-law appreciates, because men are cowardly and not very motivated.
Of course, this is also the root cause of the divorce of two people. A man can't stand his ex-wife's strong ability, and his ex-wife can't stand a man's glass heart.
After the divorce, as long as the mother-in-law mentioned her former daughter-in-law, she sighed and regretted it. And this kind of regret and regret is naturally transferred to Wang Juan.
In contrast, Wang Juan's ability is average. And Wang Juan is the kind of woman who has no ambition, she only thinks about ordinary life, and she does not have high requirements for herself at work.
This obviously made the mother-in-law feel that compared with her former daughter-in-law, Wang Juan was one underground and one in the sky.
Three
In life, Wang Juan also likes to be careful in her budget, she wants to save a little money and buy a house with a man, so that the interests of the two people are more deeply bound, and it is also convenient to let her mother-in-law move out and live alone when necessary.
Wang Juan's careful thinking naturally couldn't escape her mother-in-law's eyes. The mother-in-law first looked down on Wang Juan's childishness, and she also hated Wang Juan for starting to calculate herself now, so the dislike between the words was even more obvious. It's not that Wang Juan doesn't earn much, she is not self-motivated, or she thinks she can't dress up, she doesn't have the elite demeanor of her former daughter-in-law, and even before marriage, Wang Juan took the initiative to roll the sheets with a man, and her mother-in-law secretly said that she deliberately used this trick to win a position.
Forget these trivial things, what makes Wang Juan even more angry is that this year's mother-in-law celebrated her birthday, and she even invited the man's ex-wife. The mother-in-law said that when the former daughter-in-law asked, she was just casually polite, but who knew that she was taken seriously.
Fortunately, the man's ex-wife is a very cultivated woman, and she politely withdrew after giving a gift to Wang Juan's mother-in-law by taking the opportunity to watch the children.
But Wang Juan's heart was like swallowing a fly, and she was uncomfortable to death. She quarrels with men behind closed doors, but men think she is making a big fuss and jealous of an irrelevant person.
Wang Juan was angry and helpless, she wanted to divorce but was afraid of losing face, she wanted to continue, but she felt that there was no hope.