Every year, when the results of the college entrance examination come out, a few families are happy and a few are sad, and those who play well are happy to fill in the volunteers; If you lose your performance, you may face a difficult choice, which is to apply for a university that is not very satisfactory with your scores? Or go back to high school and repeat the college entrance examination next year?
There is a child who has not had a good time recently because he did not do well in the exam. If you look at the scores alone, this child actually did quite well in the test, because she scored 620 points. For most children, a score of 620 is already an unattainable high score. But for this child, 620 points is a full 50 points less than her estimated score!
Not getting the predicted score was already sad for the child, but what made her even more sad was her mother's attitude towards her. After the results came out, because the score was 50 points less than the child expected, the mother scolded the child for an afternoon, and after the scolding, the mother decided to let the child repeat and set a goal of 700 points for the child.
But this child herself does not want to repeat, because she is not sure that she can repeat the exam for a year, she knows that there is a repeater in the school, and the score after repeating a year is 10 points less than before, in her opinion, there are uncertain factors in repeating, and she cannot guarantee that she will get the ideal score if she repeats.
The child's mother was also angry because before the results came out, she told relatives and friends everywhere that her daughter was estimated to be able to score 670 points, and when the time came, Xi'an Jiaotong University and Xi'an University of Technology could choose at will, but the results only came out with 620 points, a full 50 points difference from 670 points, and her mother should feel a little embarrassed.
The child's relatives posted this incident on the Internet, and netizens were so angry when they saw it that they left messages in the comment area:
"Let your aunt take the test by herself to score 700!"
"Why should parents force their children to accomplish a goal they set in this era of uncertainty?"
"Why does my aunt want my daughter to bear the flag?"
"Speechless, who would brag before the results?"
"Parents' face is more important than their daughters."
There are also many netizens who feel that this mother's practice may cause a lot of psychological pressure on the child, and if you really want to repeat the study, the child will be under too much pressure, and you can't really say whether you can increase the score. If the score is lower than this year's, the child doesn't know what he will be accused of! Think about your child's situation and feel sorry for her.
Some netizens accused the mother of being anxious and vain, if the child repeats the school, he doesn't know what she will be forced to become, and then there will be trouble if there is a psychological problem.
I think the concerns of netizens are justified, this mother's approach is indeed a little unacceptable, the child did not do well in the exam, as a parent is a little lost is understandable, but you can't blindly blame the child, it is not easy for the child to get 620 points, and the estimated score is not obtained, the child is not happy, at this time, as a parent, what should be done is to comfort the child, not for the sake of their own face, scold the child, and even completely ignore the child's thoughts, ask the child to repeat, He also set a goal of 700 points for his child.
700 points, this mother is too daring to set goals, and with her approach of seeing face more important than anything else, once the child can't get this score, I'm afraid that the attitude towards the child will only be harsher than this year, and how much pressure the child will have at that time, I am afraid that it may really be as netizens said, the child's psychology will have problems.
As a parent, it is understandable to expect your child to be promising, but this expectation is really for the good of your child, not for your own face. If you are truly good for your child, you will know to support her when she needs it, rather than blindly putting pressure on her in order to get good grades.
The child who got 620 is good enough, this mother should really feel satisfied, for the child's failure, communicate with the child well, understand the child's ideas, respect the child's ideas, and believe that her child's future prospects will be limitless.