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What should a woman live? I've never defined it. Because I know that we shouldn't put any label on ourselves.
But there are some bottom lines, I think we still shouldn't touch them, that is, we should at least not do something that makes us easy to fall, so that we can live better ourselves.
There are many such women around me, they are not happy at all, but they don't know what their problems are, in fact, they have these characteristics, so they lose control of life.
You have to remember that we can be ordinary women and live ordinary lives, but we can't make ourselves unhappy.
If you also have these five characteristics, get rid of them, and I believe you will find that your life is full of life and happiness.
Get to the bottom of things
likes to get to the bottom of things, in fact, it is a manifestation of no emotional intelligence, because in the adult world, there is not so much honesty and nothing to say, and others will naturally tell you what they want you to know, and if they don't tell you, it can only mean that he has scruples about you.
At such times, if you can't suppress your curiosity and keep asking questions, the end result will be a bad nose and make others think you are gossipy.
Actually, we really don't need to pay that much attention to other people's lives, do we? The most important thing is to have this time to care about whether you are really doing well.
I've seen many happy, intelligent women who never care too much about other people's affairs, even when they tell them.
Therefore, you must not let yourself be lowered in this way, without asking, without listening, you can be alone.
Not confident enough
Being too cowardly will make you unable to show your beauty, and it will also make you easy to become the object of being manipulated by others.
Although I know that it is not easy to be a very confident woman, we will always doubt ourselves at some point, but you also have to try to give yourself a little psychological hint and tell yourself, I can do it, I am not afraid.
Don't think this is special Ah Q, this hint and your hard work will make you stronger and stronger, and one day you can face the world with your head held high.
Most importantly, don't be afraid to make mistakes, and don't put any labels on yourself, if you are wrong, you can change it, and it's okay to start over.
After watching "The Story of Rose" recently, I especially admire Huang Yimei, this woman always has strong self-confidence, so she will not hesitate no matter what happens.
Believe in yourself, you can really control your own life, come on.
Overly worried
Worrying is a common problem for many women, but honey, are you sure that the people around you need you like this, or like you like this?
I have heard many middle-aged women complain, they say that the people around them do not understand them, and they treat their hard work as a donkey's liver and lungs, which really makes them very sad.
In fact, what they call giving is a kind of desire to control, because they want to control everything, so they keep worrying and nagging, always thinking that this can make everyone feel their love.
But everyone is an individual, you give others a little more space, and give yourself a little more, so that others can respect you more.
In other words, in any relationship, you must grasp the degree and do not talk deeply, so that others cannot control you, and you can control your own life.
The mouth is hard and the heart is soft
said cruel words on his lips, turned around and regretted it, always hoping that others would coax him, and in the end no one was happy. Is this a portrayal of you?
Women, you can be coquettish, you can be willful, but you must be smart enough, don't be hard-mouthed and soft-hearted, this will only make people look down on you.
Because for men, such women are best in control, they don't need to do anything at all, they will come back to compromise and kneel and lick themselves.
Really powerful women rarely say cruel words, but they do things decisively, so ordinary people don't dare to mess with them casually, they will be afraid of touching their bottom line and reverse scales.
You may not be able to do this for a while, but at least learn not to threaten people with your mouth all the time, and when you can do this, you will find that you seem to be able to slowly control all your relationships.
At that time, it will be easy to make your heart stronger a little bit.
Losing oneself
There is a kind of woman who is very cheap, they lose themselves easily, and they like to move and kidnap others with self-sacrifice.
There is no one in this world who should pay for whom, all we can do is to love ourselves. If you are willing to give for others and feel that you are willing to do so, then I think it is okay, but if you want to be rewarded for this, or you will feel psychologically unbalanced because of this, then I advise you to change yourself as soon as possible.
Because if you have such a mentality for a long time, others will think that you are very easy to be handled, and your own mentality will become bad because of this.
So, change yourself, start by loving yourself, don't take it as a slogan, but really put it into practice.
Women, you can live whatever you want, you don't have to be very powerful, and you don't have to be extremely sophisticated.
However, I hope you don't lose your bottom line, and don't let others bully you casually.
Remember, we love ourselves so much that we try to keep our principles and not do these cheap things just to take control of our lives.
I have witnessed the transformation of many women, maybe just from making a little change for themselves at the beginning, and slowly being able to make themselves the heroine of their own lives.
Trust me, you can.
I'm Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old, likes to write warm words, do emotional programs, and has published "The Rest of Your Life, Related to Me", if you have a story, remember to come to me.