Nowadays, most people feel that they are living a hard life, including children.
In fact, the main thing is that I haven't experienced what is really suffering.
In "Ordinary World": There is such a scene that you don't feel miserable after watching it.
Lu Yao put Sun Shaoping's appearance at lunch.
The boy in high school was the time when he had the most food, but his lunch only had two sorghum buns and the leftover vegetable soup from his classmates, and the vegetable soup was sprinkled into the tray by other classmates, and it happened to rain that day, when he put the leftover soup mixed with the rain into the bowl, Lu Yao wrote this paragraph:
Blood poured up on his thin yellow face. A large drop of water fell on the basin and splashed him with vegetable soup. He closed his eyes, and then he saw two tears slowly slip down his cheeks. At the same time, Lu Yao also wrote a narrator: Alas, let's just think that this is a spicy soup splashed in his eyes.
I can't recall that when I was in my third year of high school 20 years ago, I must have felt extremely resonant when I read this sentence.
When I was a child, the conditions in our family were not very good, my parents were ordinary farmers, and the only source of income was farming, so we had to provide for our four sisters to study at the same time, and the pressure can be imagined.
In order to save money, after I arrived at the middle school, we rented a single room in front of the school, I don't remember exactly how big, one room put a big bed, a small bed, our bed, dining table and desk are these two beds, next to the door is a stove.
Usually we cook by ourselves, every weekend my mother will make a lot of cakes for us to bring, usually too late to cook, cakes with my mother's pickled pickles is our home-cooked meal.
Of course, compared with Sun Shaoping, my material conditions when I was studying were much better, at least we could eat enough.
But I can also fully empathize with the tears he shed at that moment, definitely not simply because the food is unpalatable, but more about the inability to do anything about the status quo, which then triggers the inner inferiority, powerlessness, helplessness, unwillingness and even anger, such feelings often appear in the growth experience of children from poor families, and even accompany them for a lifetime.
In other words, Sun Shaoping's suffering at that time was more of a spiritual suffering, but now we don't have any suffering at least materially.
Fang Xiewen in the recently hit TV series "The Story of Roses" is a typical child of a poor family, so from the moment he fell in love with roses, his inferiority complex and insecurity did not disappear, which is why many of his behaviors are incredible, such as helping Rose resign without permission, refusing to work with Rose on his back, etc.
He was too scared for the Rose to leave him.
However, the truth is so cruel, often what you fear most is that it will be as you wish.
Although Fang Xiewen finally agreed to divorce Rose, he actually didn't understand why he was so good to Rose, and the other party still wanted to escape from her?
And Sun Shaoping's later growth, in fact, through reading and spiritual exchanges with Tian Xiaoxia, gradually began to reconcile with the inferior self, so I think Sun Shaoping is actually very lucky.
This is also a fundamental reason why he finally achieved spiritual freedom after soaking in bitter water, and I will write a separate article to talk about my views in this part.
It was only after I started a family that I slowly came out of the shadow of these emotions, or maybe these effects are still there.
At the same time, these bad feelings brought by poverty will also be transformed into our advantages when we grow up, such as being more stamina and willing to work hard when doing things.
Therefore, no matter what you are experiencing at the moment, in fact, you are not as bitter as Sun Shaoping was back then, and you must firmly believe that what you have experienced is a gift.