Hello everyone! I'm Haoyuan's mother

The joyful super long summer vacation is coming soon, but it also means that many babies will go to kindergarten in two months.

The old mothers are really half happy and half worried, haha. Looking forward to the "little beast" going to school quickly, he was so relaxed and relaxed, but when he thought of the scene of the child crying heartbreakingly at the entrance of the kindergarten, he was anxious.

Of course, among these "little beasts", there are always some more worry-free, even on the first day of entering the kindergarten, the little ones do not cry or make trouble, but look forward to and enjoy life in the kindergarten.

Why is it the first day to enter the park, why is the difference so big?

The kindergarten teacher bluntly said: Most of the children who don't cry on the first day of kindergarten come from these three families

A mother said before that she was taught by some parenting experts and parenting experts on the Internet:

When the child was more than 2 years old, he was sent to the early education class;

Teach the child a lot of things that he can do in his daily life, such as eating by himself, dressing himself, going to the toilet by himself, etc.;

If possible, try to let others in the family take turns to take care of the child, so that the child does not become dependent on himself.

But after all these methods were used, the child still cried silently when he went to kindergarten.

I have also consulted and discussed this issue with my younger brother's kindergarten teacher, in fact, these are relatively some "plus" conditions, the most important thing is to go into the hearts of children, like these 3 types of family children, it will be more worry-free:

One: Families with high emotional intelligence

For children of this age, their cognition can be said to come almost entirely from their parents, simply put, what parents say, children believe.

I remember very well that once when I sent my brother to kindergarten, I saw a grandmother and his grandson who had not yet gone to kindergarten and said, "If you cry again, I will send you to kindergarten."

The little guy who was still crying just now glanced at the kindergarten with his eyes and tried his best to control his crying.

It is understandable that this may be a way of "coaxing babies" that the older generation has been accustomed to, but I have to admit that in most cases, this way will make children lose their beautiful yearning for kindergarten.

Many young mothers, or some elderly people who "keep up with the times", will use positive and slightly humorous language to guide their children.

A "Versailles" aunt in the community said:

"It's not yet time to register, so I wanted to take my son to the kindergarten first, but I was reluctant to go home when I went in.

After officially entering the kindergarten, he was the last to go home after school, and his son was afraid of the weekend and worried that he would not be allowed to go. Usually if you make a mistake, you can scare him by not letting him go to kindergarten.

Now that I'm graduating from college, I'm still nostalgic for school and reluctant to go home, what kind of kid is this"!

Of course, each child has a different personality and cannot be copied, the main thing is to use the right language to guide the child, not to scare.

Two: a family that can give children a sense of security

In recent years, there is a word called "separation anxiety", which is why many children cry when they see their mothers leave.

Why is there "separation anxiety"? In the end, it is the child who does not have a "sense of security".

This sense of security is not something that can be given by mothers who accompany their children every day, but requires education and guidance and psychological construction in advance.

My method is:

1: "Temptation"

"You see, there are a lot of children in the kindergarten to play with you, and there are all kinds of toys, and the teacher will prepare sumptuous food for you, at home, only your mother plays with you, I am bored for you hahaha."

Children will feel that this is really the case, so they will yearn for kindergarten life.

2: A loving hug

Give your child a big hug or kiss at school and after school, let your child know that we miss him and love him, they will be very happy, and they will even share interesting stories about kindergarten with you.

3: A good promise

Children may not have a specific concept of time, we can tell children: "Every day in kindergarten, after napping, drinking, snacks, fruits, mother will come to pick you up on time".

This is especially important for children who have just entered the kindergarten, and the child will feel a sense of security in an instant.

Remember, be sure to wait for your child at the kindergarten gate early, don't be late, and if you're occasionally late for some reason, you should also make it clear to your child in time, don't feel that it's unnecessary to talk to your child.

Three: Families who like to socialize

Many parents like to "stay at home" with their babies, which can't blame the baby for crying in kindergarten.

Take your child to walk outside more, and see more people, things, and things, and the child will be bolder.

Take your child to walk around the kindergarten in advance, or if you have the eldest in the family, you can bring the second child when you pick up the eldest child.

In this way, children will not be strangers to going to kindergarten, and they can also contact more children, play together, make trouble together, and children will not resist when they adapt to this atmosphere and environment.

Epilogue:

It is normal for children to cry on the first day of kindergarten or in the early stage, parents do not need to be too anxious, the child's adaptability is actually strong, the main thing is to do a good job of psychological construction for the child in advance, so that the child has a slow sense of security, and it will get better soon!