On a distraught afternoon, I watched a Korean movie, "Everything About My Wife." After reading it, the mood was actually much better.
Reminiscent of some recent celebrity gossip, Zhou Yangqing and Luo Zhixiang, who have made a lot of noise, ali executives' wives tear zhang Dayi, and Dangdang Yu Yu and Li Guoqing, have to sigh: whether it is a star or a corporate executive, they will experience emotional changes from love to seven years of itching.
How exactly do we hold on to happiness in marriage?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > love: only you in my world, so happy</h1>
Love is coming, really like a tornado, no obstacle can stop it.
Maybe it's just dusk passing by and glancing at each other a few times; maybe it's just a band-aid handed over when you fall; maybe it's just a takeaway delivered during overtime... Magnetic fields are always invisible, attracting each other.
In the Korean film "Everything About My Wife", Soo-kyung and Do-hyun meet in an earthquake. The sunshine girl with bright eyes and slightly cocked corners of her mouth meets a warm and considerate, tall and handsome sunshine boy, just like the opening of all idol dramas.
"I am honored to meet such a beautiful woman."
"Brother? My dear? Baby? ”
"I want you?"
"Didn't you get it?"
"I'm going to be my brother's woman, get up in the morning, and I want to open my eyes with you."
At the beginning of love, every day is a high-sweet state. In public, they sprinkled dog food unscrupulously, making people all over the world jealous.
My world is only you. Only you！
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > seven-year itch: My world is full of you, so irritable</h1>
After 7 years of marriage, Lin Xiujing changed clothes unscrupulously in front of her husband, and the whole stripped naked, but his husband came up with a sentence: "Let's break up." ”
It reminds me of "The Smiths," the incredibly sexy Angelina, standing in front of Pete in her underwear, but Pete looks at her like a couch in the house.
For her husband, Lin Xiujing has no freshness. Every day, she fetches juice and vegetable juice and delivers it to her husband, even if he goes to the bathroom. The husband frowned and drank it, the tiredness in her heart was so obvious, she still looked at him and said, "It's very cute." ”
After seven years of marriage, she loved him as always and depended on him, but he was tired of it, wanted a divorce and did not dare to mention it.
This is undoubtedly the saddest fact.
"If life is only like the first sight, what is the autumn wind and sad painting fan?"
In "Roman Holiday", the princess and the reporter meet romantically and fall in love, but eventually have to return to their respective worlds, and when they say goodbye, they can only abide by their identities and be silent, and they are separated from the world. In "Half Life", Man Zhen and Shi Jun reunite after 18 years, and they both know that they will never go back to the past, and there is a gap of years between them. In "My Wife's Together", Xiujing and Daoxian are together every day, but they can never return to the passion and sweetness of love, and the "chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea" between them is like 7 flame mountains.
Women need to be attractive, and it is obvious that Lin Xiujing has no more in front of her husband. So much so that the husband prefers to travel for a long time to avoid getting along with her.
My world is all about you. Only you！
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > happiness: mutual appreciation is happiness</h1>
Huang Lei once said, "Marriage is a process of mutual appreciation." ”
In "Everything About My Wife", before getting married, the other party is full of advantages. After many years of marriage, the other person is still the same person, but it seems that everything has changed. In fact, it's just that the way of looking at the other person has changed.
Lin Xiujing has a pure personality, is straight and straight, and speaks straight, even a little "poisonous tongue". Facing people who want to jump off the building, she said:
"Suicide is also murder, you have to eat prison food, if the uncle jumps down, who will clean up?" This is littering. How much impact will someone who accidentally sees you commit suicide have? This is a violation of the wind. And what face do you have to live with your family? This is to destroy the reputation of others. "
A few simple words, although poisonous tongue, can be seen that Lin Xiujing is very concerned about others and has a good sense of empathy. She is also meticulous to her husband, making super beautiful dishes every day, accompanied by juice. Even if her husband travels on business, she follows him to the place of travel and takes care of his life. However, her husband turned a blind eye to her efforts. I think she is nagging, arrogant, and has low emotional intelligence, but I don't understand her loneliness and don't know how to appreciate her personality.
It wasn't until he did the dirty thing of hiring someone to lure his wife to cheat, from the perspective of a bystander, that he found that his wife was so attractive.
She went to work and was a very popular radio anchorwoman; she went on a date, and every smile was so charming; she bought a car herself, drove to Seoul alone, went anywhere she aspired, and was so independent. She is also willing to chat with herself, in order to make herself free from loneliness, how considerate. After learning to appreciate, he found that it was not his wife who had changed, but himself.
When he began to be in the position of his wife, he experienced the loneliness and torment of his wife at home alone, and he even began to lose his temper with the waiter in the restaurant like his wife, and angry at the uncle who delivered the newspaper every day.
Jiang Chen in "To Our Simple Little Beauty" said to Chen Xiaoxi, "How do you always forget that I love you?" I love you very much, there are indeed girls in this world who are taller than you, thinner than you, more beautiful than you, smarter and gentler than you, but it is none of my business. ”
In marriage, don't be the other party's bad evaluator, but be the other party's encouragement officer. Mutual appreciation is happiness.