There is a very shocking saying in psychology: "Each of us wears a corset that we can't see." The difference is that some people only know they're wearing a corset that they can't see. Therefore, try to reduce your limitations as much as possible. Most people, on the other hand, don't know that they are wearing a corset that they can't see and mistakenly think they have no limitations.
The thinking of the professional psychologist is: to find the root cause of pain, and must use practical actions to overcome all mental illnesses; the thinking of the client is: I am very painful, why does the occupational psychologist not understand my pain, can not understand me?
Patients with fever go to the doctor because the fever is severe and very uncomfortable. He stressed: Hurry up and get rid of the fever! I can't stand it anymore! And the doctor's first reaction when he sees a patient is: What is this disease? Why is it burning so badly? What exactly is a virus? In order to find out the root cause of the disease, the doctor will make a decision as soon as possible to go to various tests, and the doctor will find out the cause. The patient watched the doctor prescribe a list to do various examinations, and he was already in a hurry! Say, "I'm about to burn to death, can't you hurry up and give me a fever reduction"?
The thinking of the occupational psychologist must be superior to the thinking of the client. Otherwise, the occupational psychologist is the patient. And the patient is the occupational psychologist. This needs to be understood by the visitor. Of course, the thinking of professional psychologists is also incomprehensible to many clients. Because there are too many differences between the thinking of professional psychologists and the thinking of ordinary people.
Occupational psychologists take an accepting approach to everything that cannot be changed. For example, my client, Xiaohui, was raped by his biological father. Xiaohui wanted to kill her father. I told Xiaohui: "This is a fact that cannot be changed, and in the face of these facts that cannot be changed, all you need to do is accept." If you can't accept it, the pain is yourself."
Xiao Hui said, "Even if I die, I will not accept such a fact!" This kind of thing must not happen! It appeared, either I killed him or I killed myself." A professional psychologist will not always and always understand and respect you. Would a professional psychologist encourage you to kill people and commit suicide? What has already happened is that there is no good law except acceptance. If you can't accept and respect what happened in the past, then the pain is yourself.
So, the professional psychologist said, "All suffering is self-inflicted." You don't have to suffer at all." The client, on the other hand, said, "My own suffering is caused by someone else." If, he doesn't, I won't suffer." The point is: we can only master our own behavior and thinking, but we cannot grasp the behavior and thinking of others. Your father just raped you, and, while doing it, he forced Xiaohui to shout, "Daddy."
The Mind of a Professional Psychologist: Living in the Imagination is easy. Because, that is a "dream" made up by yourself. It's hard to live in reality! Because, you have to face too many things that you can't face. In fact, there are no things in the world that you can't face, only things you don't want to face. The so-called thoughts, the thoughts that you don't want to face, are your limitations, your obsessions, the corsets you wear that you can't see.
I am a "spiritual psychologist." I came out of the disease and became a Masongda, a trail runner, a cycling expert; I came out of depression and became a professional psychologist; I came from writing a little white to become a spiritual writer. Anything is possible, provided that you dare to think and do! Don't let your mind limit yourself!