Mr. Yang Jiang once said that if you want to know whether a family is happy and whether the relationship between husband and wife is good, it is enough to look at three characteristics:
1. Look at the husband's attitude towards his wife. If the father loves the mother, the mother is quiet, and the mother is quiet. Energy is circulating, and if a person treats his wife well, the warm energy will flow back to the children and husband, and flow endlessly in this home.
There are no unhappy marriages in the world, only unhappy couples. The husband and wife get along well, and marriage is a sweet harbor; If the relationship between husband and wife is not handled properly, then marriage is an abyss of pain.
The unhappiness of a family often begins with a change in the wife's mood. The mood of a wife is largely influenced by her husband's attitude towards her. In the adult world, love does not always burn all the time, but gradually accumulates and manifests itself in the details of everyday life.
Your wife is the one who will accompany you for the rest of your life, and her perfunctory treatment is actually irresponsible for your own life.
A good husband should be someone who can control his emotions and always maintain a good attitude towards his wife.
Because men's attitudes directly affect women's moods, and women's moods determine the warmth and harmony of the family.
The wife is the cornerstone of the family's happiness, and the husband is the key to whether the wife can play this role. Only when the wife feels the approval and support of her husband can she create greater value for the family.
Only when the wife is fully loved can she use her love to nourish the children and the whole family.
Second, look at the mistress of the family. Strong women are forced out, yellow-faced women are boiled out, and big tempers are tired.
Women crave to be loved and understood. However, this is often not the case, and many women have to become strong and independent without support, and are even jokingly called "female men". It's not that they don't want to be weak, it's that the environment forces them to put on armor.
In marriage and love, overgiving can sometimes backfire. When we are too good to one person, we may make the other person feel suffocated and even stop cherishing the goodness.
In the family, if the woman is always responsible for all the housework and responsibilities, in the long run, she will not only feel tired, but also may make the partner gradually get used to this unequal division of labor, thus neglecting the common responsibility for the family. In the long run, gender roles are solidified, and when both parties are so used to no longer understanding each other, conflicts erupt.
Women's place in the family should not be limited to housework, they also need to be respected and valued. A healthy family relationship should be one in which both husband and wife share household chores, participate in family decision-making, and support and encourage each other.
3. Look at the child's appearance. The face of parents is the first "mirror" of children, and children raised by happy families are optimistic, positive, confident, respect others and themselves, like to make friends, and feel that getting along with others is pleasant, safe and worth looking forward to. There are no emotions of restlessness, anxiety, irritability.
A scene in the movie evokes many people's warm memories of home.
When Jia Ling came home from school, her mother was busy in the kitchen, with the smell of food in the fumes, and the loving smile on her mother's face, a cordial call, a simple sentence "Stinky girl, hurry up and wash your hands and eat!" How many people's hearts have been touched.
A happy family is to let you "go away for half a life, and return as a teenager", no matter how the years change, the warmth and innocence of home can always keep us young in heart.
Forrest Gump in the movie "Forrest Gump", although his IQ is lower than ordinary people, his life is full of love and support, especially his mother, who has always given him infinite encouragement and trust. The unconditional love of his mother allows Forrest Gump to always maintain an innocent and resilient heart in the face of life's challenges.
In stark contrast to Forrest Gump is Will. Will has extraordinary intellectual and mathematical talents, but his childhood is filled with painful memories of abandonment and abuse, which makes his mind closed and cold, and he is afraid of forming deep connections with people, even denying his own worth to some extent.
From the above examples, it can be seen that the most valuable wealth that parents give to their children is not material wealth, but spiritual fulfillment and strength. In the face of life's challenges and lows, children are able to have strong beliefs and positive attitudes. The power of this belief and action comes from the unconditional love, encouragement, and support that parents give to their children.
When discussing the topic of family and marriage, we often hear the following saying:
"Good women prosper for three generations, and bad women harm three generations."
The role of women in the family is crucial, and their qualities and behaviors affect not only the spouse, but also the next generation, and beyond. And whether a woman can become a so-called "good woman" depends to a large extent on the treatment she receives, especially the love and respect from her husband.
A man's attitude towards his wife can often shape his wife's mentality and behavior. If a husband can give his wife enough love, respect, and support, she is more likely to be a loving, intelligent, and resilient person.
If the husband is indifferent, neglects or even abuses his wife, the wife's psyche can be hurt, not only for herself, but also for the children and the atmosphere of the family as a whole.
This is why it is said that whether a man is good to his wife or not is the key to the prosperity of a family.