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The son was doing the laundry, and his mother said to him distressedly, "If you find a daughter-in-law, you don't have to do the laundry yourself." ”
After hearing this, the son said: "I don't think any girl rushes to marriage for those trivial household chores, and I think you are no exception, mother." ”
When many people see this video, they think the boy's point of view is too good.
The idea that "no girl lives for trivial chores" is really so popular with women!
In most families of the previous generation, women were largely responsible for the housework.
And it's not just men who think it's a woman's business, but women themselves who think so.
As a result, some women have some strange parenting concepts when they have children:
If it is a daughter, I will train them to do housework from an early age, and later marry into her in-law's family to be a hard-working and capable daughter-in-law;
If it is a son, they are not required to do any housework, and they hope that when they grow up, they will marry a wife to serve him.
Just like the mother in the video, she has worked hard for the family for half her life, raised her son, and waited for her daughter-in-law to serve her son for the rest of her life, and even their whole family.
However, she didn't know that today's girls were already different from the girls they were at that time.
Today's girls not only can't PUA themselves, but it's also difficult for others to PUA them anymore.
Therefore, in the comment area, everyone expressed their opinions:
"Although doing these things is what a family should do, but if someone deliberately says this, I don't think I want to, regardless of boys and girls, they must be unhappy to be said by the other party's parents, they are all treasures in the family, marriage is not to become a labor force, we know what to do."
"She thinks so much, I don't want to do the laundry myself, and I marry him to help him wash it?"
"My mother said that doing housework after marriage is a girl's business, and a boy just needs to work, I said that before he got married, didn't he clean up the house by himself? Housework is left to people who can't stand it, so we are both here to do hygiene, I said impossible, housework must be divided evenly, I can ignore more and less, but it must be done, and if you are used to it, you will get used to it. ”
Not to mention that they won't get used to their future husbands, they don't even bother to get used to their relatives and even brothers.
"My cousin's family has three bachelors, the house is a little sloppy, my mother said they want to marry a daughter-in-law to clean up the house or something, I said which woman has never done housework so much?"
"My brother is a very unmotivated person, and his parents gave him the house and car. I always do work for months and lie down for months, but my mother still urges me to get married. I told my mom that he wouldn't like a girl like this, so let's stabilize my life before getting married. My mother said that when you get married and have a wife, the boy will grow up and will grow up. I was very angry and said to my mother, why do you want a girl to teach your son to grow up? Why don't you teach it yourself? ”
Not only do they not listen, but they will also directly scold people, and they will not bear it at all.
"I want to hear such words, whether she is an elder or not, she can't bear it a little."
"I never wash my husband's clothes, I don't care if my in-laws are at home, I can't get used to it, I don't want to change it, that's how I scolded my in-laws!"
"My father-in-law said, when you marry into our family, you are to wash our clothes, cook and take care of the children (I am a stepmother) I said, do you know what a daughter-in-law is, your family doesn't spend a dime, your face is quite big, I wash you is my kindness, it is for your son's sake, as for your fart, you are not."
Don't do housework and don't get treated by your in-laws? But I didn't plan to get married at all, where did my in-laws come from?
"They said that if I was so lazy, I would be beaten to death if I went to my mother-in-law's house, but I never thought about getting married."
I have to say that today's girls are really not so easy to be brainwashed, if there is an in-law who still holds the idea of letting his son marry a wife and come back to serve him, it is estimated that he must be prepared to marry a wife.
Moreover, for those women who have worked hard for their families all their lives, I personally feel that since they have been drenched in the rain, even if they don't want to hold an umbrella for others, there is no need to deliberately splash other people's water.
And if you take another 10,000 steps back, even if it is for the son you love, you shouldn't squeeze the woman he loves, right?
His marriage is unhappy, what good is it for him to be a mother?
He can take responsibility, and it is easy for him to be a parent.
Giving back their children's lives to their children and living their own lives is what wise parents should be.