Recently, young people all over the Internet are envious of a girl named Meng Yutong.
Many parents also praised "this girl is sparkling" and "I hope my child will be as good as her in the future!" ”
Why did this girl get such high praise?
At the scene of an event, Gree Chairman Dong Mingzhu publicly introduced his 22-year-old secretary Meng Yutong to everyone and said: "I hope she can be by my side and cultivate her into the second Dong Mingzhu in the future." ”
We all know that Dong Mingzhu is one of the most famous female entrepreneurs in China, who can introduce her secretary in public in this way, and express such high expectations and trust.
It can be seen that this girl is really not simple!
The 22-year-old Meng Yutong left a deep impression on Dong Mingzhu in the variety show "We Who First Entered the Workplace".
She had just graduated from college and followed Dong Mingzhu and interned for about three months.
In the end, he really turned into the secretary of the chairman of Gree.
If young people who have just entered society want to assume high positions, they must be able to withstand beatings and bear grievances, and Dong Mingzhu's evaluation of Meng Yutong is:
Your greatest competitiveness is to be able to suffer better than others.
Yes, only those who can bear the hardships have the strength to resist the wind and rain of life and have the ability to catch the opportunities of life.
Life is a long road, parents can not accompany their children through the whole process of life, on the road to growth, there are still many problems that children need to face.
Parents raise children, the most important thing is to let him leave the wings of his parents, still can live a good life.
Therefore, no matter how much you love your child, let him suffer these 4 kinds of suffering.
The bitterness of reading
Many people see Meng Yutong's brilliance now, but they don't know how hard she has worked.
Meng Yutong graduated from the School of Foreign Languages of Zhejiang University.
Zhejiang University is one of the top universities in China, and the college entrance examination can enter Zhejiang University to study, which only shows that Meng Yutong's past learning ability is very prominent.
And this is often a point that well-known companies value in particular: you can have no work experience, but you must have a strong learning ability and master the work in the shortest possible time.
However, not many children can master such a strong learning ability because they cannot bear the pain of learning.
There was a short film "Report Card" that burst the circle of friends.
The short film tells the story of three families with different economic conditions, but they also have a family crisis because of a report card.
The parents in the short film, without exception, read for their children, get up early and get dark, are busy with work, and they do their best to give their children the best education.
They can endure all grievances, but they are easily crushed by their children's transcripts.
Why do parents have such a strong obsession with their children's academic performance?
Because parents, as people who have come over, clearly know what academic performance represents, it cannot represent everything, but it can become an obstacle on the road of many people's lives.
Someone watched this short film and said such a heartfelt sentence: "As a person who graduated from junior high school but has computer talent, I want to easily enter Huawei and Tencent, is it possible?" ”
Remember the Xu Mengnan who stood on the high exam paper with the "Declaration of Independence" written on it and scored 0 points?
He became an internet celebrity because of that 0, and he also became a complete loser.
Because he did not have a good education, he did all kinds of hard work, changed jobs frequently, and his family business was a mess.
At that time, he discovered that the uselessness of achievements is all deceitful, short-sighted, and harmful to people for a lifetime.
Compared to the beating of society, reading is really the easiest way.
Reading or not reading, the difference is the whole life, if your child does not have enough ability and conditions to chase dreams, tell him that he has suffered from reading, and there will be rewards in the future.
The bitterness of failure
When I watched "Us In the Workplace", there was one detail that impressed me.
When Dong Mingzhu first met Meng Yutong, he gave her a low score.
Imagine that the competitors around you are all excellent, all perform very well, and get good scores, and you, by a very strong predecessor, are denied.
Isn't it stressful? Will you deny yourself and dare not express yourself again?
But Meng Yutong was not defeated by a failure, she readjusted her state, became more and more courageous, and finally lived up to expectations and became a promising workplace newcomer in the future.
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, and there are always more times to lose than to win.
Visionary parents should not only teach their children how to succeed, but also teach their children how to face failure.
Once saw a story.
Xiaoye, a college entrance exam winner, suddenly ran away from home one day in the second semester of his sophomore year, and for the next 10 years he spent a lot of time on the streets, making a living near the train station.
After the reporter inquired, he learned that the reason why Xiaoye ran away from home was that he did not do well in the final exam, and he was afraid of being scolded by his parents, so he did not dare to go home.
All along, Xiaoye has been "someone else's child", the hope of the whole village, and has lived in an environment where "he cannot fail" since he was a child.
The village secretary said that Xiaoye had always had a knot that had not been opened, that is, everyone, including Xiaoye himself, would not allow him to fail.
Seeing this is really sighing, sighing a child who should have a good future, but he was devastated by a small failure.
General Patton once said: "A man's success is measured not by the height of his ascent to the top, but by the resilience of his fall to a low point." ”
Forward-thinking parents will not raise their children to be delicate flowers in the greenhouse, but know how to let go and let them feel the pain of failure.
Because they know that failure is the norm of life, and they can bear the pain of failure in order to taste the sweetness of life.
The bitterness of criticism
Meng Yutong became popular and was exposed to the public eye from the beginning.
Her performance in the show, her internship experience, her regularization, are all public and evaluated.
And these every move through the fermentation of the network, will be infinitely amplified, the slightest difference pool will be sprayed.
If you do it well, everyone may feel that you should take it for granted, but if you make a mistake, everyone will say that you are not worthy.
Dong Mingzhu publicly introduced Meng Yutong's video, there are many dazzling messages:
Dong Mingzhu is not a training successor at all, she is just a girl who wants to cultivate a daughter-in-law.
Others commented that Meng Yutong was either a relative of Dong Mingzhu or a person of her boss.
People will always look at women with colored glasses to successful careers, and they must link their success with marriage and shortcuts.
Such a comment based on its own assumptions actually received 90,000 likes.
On the road to success, a person will inevitably suffer from all kinds of criticism, if the heart is not strong enough to face these slanders and criticisms, it will inevitably lead to a dead end.
Meng Yutong has a strong heart that confronts "criticism", if it is an objective evaluation, she will absorb and urge herself to grow; if it is a brainless attack, it will not replace herself.
This is true of the workplace, and it is also true of education.
There are many parents who are distressed by their children and are reluctant to criticize them, resulting in children becoming more and more ignorant.
If parents are unwilling to criticize and discipline their children, they are conniving and spoiling their children.
I once saw a real experience shared by a netizen on Weibo.
A seven-year-old boy and his mother eat hot pot in the shop, and at first the child has been shouting and shouting from the side, and also throws vegetable leaves that have fallen on the ground into the hot pot on the next table.
The boy's mother hurriedly apologized to the other party and said: "The child is still young, does not understand things, very sorry", but turned his head and did not criticize the boy's excessive behavior, and gave the boy a piece of meat.
The young man at the next table resisted and asked the waiter to change the pot.
But the little boy seemed to be tacitly allowed, and the next words surprised everyone.
He said, "If you look ugly, you're going to eat something that falls on the ground, so why should my mother apologize to you?" You ugly bastards! ”
The young man at the nearby table was furious and directly slapped the little boy, hitting the corner of the little boy's mouth and bleeding.
When the mother next to her saw such a scene, she was also angry and frustrated, and she fought with the young man at the next table, and finally ended the farce under the mediation of the clerk and the police.
As the old saying goes, small trees are being cut down and children are in charge.
Criticism certainly makes the child uncomfortable, but if you do not criticize the child, the child will not know that he is doing wrong, and naturally someone will criticize and "educate" him for you.
Children are like growing seedlings that can only thrive if they are pruned.
Growing children can only be better through criticism and discipline.
Children who have been criticized can also distinguish whether others' "negative evaluations" of themselves are denigration or spurring on the road of life in the future.
Only such a child can resist the rumors of life and will not be depressed by the glass heart.
There are no shortcuts to growth
Parents will eventually withdraw from their children's lives, and the sweetness that they have received without suffering will one day be returned.
When the child is still young, let them experience appropriate setbacks and tribulations, which will accelerate the child's understanding and perception of life, so that the child's growth will be more meaningful.
Master of Traditional Chinese Studies, Fu Peirong once said:
"Suffering is not to overcome others, but to face the true face of life, because in suffering, life has no cover and can show its depth, breadth and height."
Therefore, what is worth praising is not the suffering itself, but the growth changes brought to the child after suffering.
Let children have the ability to overcome difficulties, and also have a sense of happiness after overcoming difficulties.
Don't be reluctant to let your children suffer, that is the road they will have to take sooner or later.
There is no life that does not have to suffer. Children who can eat bitterness and can refine "sweet" in "bitterness" will go further in the future.
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