After being in love for a long time, we will find that two people are particularly prone to quarrels over some things, and many people will feel that they have been in love for a long time, which is normal, if you think so, then the crisis of breakup may be waiting for you not far away.
So our slogan is, solve problems and solve them, and the relationship will last for a long time.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Without further ado, let's talk about a very common case and analyze how to deal with quarrels.
We must have all encountered such a scene, a boy and a girl went on a date to watch a movie, but because of the traffic jam and was ten minutes late, the boy was very embarrassed, scratched his head and said to his girlfriend: Sorry, late, hurry up and go in to watch a movie.
At this time, the girl was very angry and said: What are you doing in now, it's been ten minutes since the opening, so let's see what's the point now.
The boy then coaxed the girl: Oh, now go in and watch, it's ten minutes late, let's not miss the rest of the content.
Here let's take a look at the boy's thinking first, the boy's thinking is obvious, since you missed the beginning, then don't miss it later. It's a typical matter-of-fact approach.
But what about girls, girls are very angry, she is angry that boys don't care about themselves at all, they can be late for so long on a date, they don't know how to go out early, what kind of attitude is this.
Do you see it, the point of the two people's entanglement is not on the same line at all, and the result is that the more the girl thinks about it, the more angry she becomes, and then she starts complaining: Every time I'm late, you just don't care about me at all.
The boy is also very aggrieved, seeing the girl complaining so much, the boy kept apologizing and apologizing, and then the girl didn't give up, and the boy was a little angry: I went out an hour early, but who would have thought of the traffic jam, I didn't mean to be late, as if I deliberately didn't let you watch a movie.
The emotions of the two became more and more talkative, and the result was that the two began to quarrel and finally broke up.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Let's take a look at the whole quarrel process, which was originally a small problem, and the result may have ended up like a breakup. You will find that this process is not uncommon, many people's quarrels, that is, two people feel that they are wronged, and with the blessing of emotions, neither of them compromises, which eventually intensifies and ends in a breakup.
So today I will introduce you to a small method to help you interrupt the vicious quarrel.
First of all, from the woman, it can also be called the active party, because it was the woman who was dissatisfied at the beginning, and the advice I gave was to learn to change the subject, what does it mean?
Let's say you start by accusing the other person of being late, and your statement is: You are late. Now change the subject to me or us, for example, you can say: I'll wait for you until your legs are sore. Then your boyfriend has to come and rub your legs for you. Or rather, neither of us can see the beginning of the movie anymore and so on.
I have also mentioned this method in the previous content, many times when you change the subject, you will go from blaming the other person to making the other person feel different.
As a passive party, we must understand a truth, that is, it is true that you have done something wrong, then the other party must have grievances, at this time you are not just thinking about coaxing, what you have to do is to compensate the other party and take practical actions to compensate.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
You can do this, first of all, you have to do a good attitude, for example, you have to run out of breath to see your girlfriend, and then say to your girlfriend: Oh, let's watch the next game, we can't let you go out to play happily and leave any regrets, let's go eat something first, I'm tired of running, first slowly, let's eat while playing, play some games, and then go to see the next one later?
I see, it's useless to just coax, and it's much more useful to make up for it than to have a mouth.
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