Prices and rents are high in Canada;
The United States is insecure and racist;
There are many refugees in Europe, and it is difficult to find a job.
The complaints of these IP addresses overseas constitute a strong evidence that "overseas life is in dire straits".
But if you don't want to talk to death, don't ask a question:
"Then why don't you come back?"
Seeing through and not saying is the last decency that adults give each other, so why is there such a subtle phenomenon of "saying bad things when you ask and not replying to every persuasion"?
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I said it was bad when I asked
"If you ask a question, you will say that you will not reply, and you will not reply to a persuasion" are two phenomena to be precise, so we will talk about them separately today, and first talk about why there are so many complaints from immigrants.
There are always many reasons for individual immigration, but in terms of types, the main immigration methods can be summarized into two types:
First, investment immigration, generally speaking, is to spend money to buy status. For example, the European Golden Visa, the United States EB5, the Canadian SUV Federal Venture Capital, etc., are all immigration programs set up for high-net-worth individuals;
Second, skilled immigration, that is, to work and live in the country of immigration, pay taxes legally, contribute to the local economy, and thus obtain status. Typical examples include the Hong Kong Quality Migrant Scheme, the Hong Kong TTPS, EB2, EB3 and so on in the United States
People who emigrate through the first way live in any civilized part of the world, there is not much difference, globalization allows them to buy roughly the same goods and services with money everywhere, the level of economic development and employment rate of a region is of little significance to them, and the climate is more attractive than a pleasant climate.
Portugal, for example, does not have much room for economic development, and the industry is not so attractive, but the climate is comfortable and the cost of living is not high, which is the choice of many rich people to retire.
But Portugal is not suitable for skilled immigrants, on the one hand, it does not provide attractive jobs for Chinese.
For example, you are an expert in AI research in China, but what can you do here? Opening a Chinese restaurant?
Therefore, if you are a skilled immigrant, of course you will complain about all kinds of bad things when you go to this kind of place, because there is a mismatch between the two sides.
Places like Hong Kong and Singapore can provide better development opportunities and a global vision, and for them, they are full of gold here, which is the best ladder for them to climb up.
But for investment immigrants, the money I spent to buy a sea-view villa in Portugal can only buy a house of less than 100 square meters in Hong Kong, which is unbalanced.
It's essentially a misallocation of resources.
In addition, there is another point that everyone may not realize that most cases of travel can only see the advantages of one place, and the disadvantages here can only be seen when you are really deeply integrated into the life here, and every place has shortcomings, people (especially Chinese) are more inclined to give priority to saying bad when answering, and the motivation to "complain" is stronger than "sharing" most of the time.
Two
一劝都不回
So why do you "not reply to any persuasion"?
This is going to be two-fold.
The first aspect: "I can endure hardship, but my children can not suffer hardship"
Unless you are really rich, otherwise the matter of immigration, for most people, is starting from 0 at a time.
This means that first-generation immigrants will inevitably have to endure some hardships. But the last thing Chinese parents are afraid of is to suffer themselves, because no matter how hard they are, they can't suffer their children.
Thinking that children can grow up in a place with less social pressure in the future, enjoy better education and social welfare, and some reasons why it is inconvenient to talk about the Chinese Internet, I have to complain and complain, and really go back, so what is the hard work of these years?
Despite all the dissatisfaction, gritting your teeth and going on.
It's like you're working hard in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, and you also feel that the housing prices are high and expensive, 996 all year round, and you work overtime to boil your hair to the point that your hair is gone, and you can't even afford a toilet in the city center, but how easy is it to let you give up everything you have and go back to your hometown to start over?
Even if they are ruthless and go back to their hometown to lie down, but thinking that after many years, maybe their children will return to their old places and live their current hard life again, many parents have gritted their teeth and persevered.
This is a common sentiment of many first-generation immigrants.
The second aspect: even if you really return to China, you will not be able to adapt to it
Previously, a blogger on YouTube posted a video like this: "China's development is so good, why are many patriotic Chinese immigrants unwilling to return to China?" 》
Danny believes that whether it is to go abroad for development, or to work hard in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou from a small city, the fundamental purpose is: "to make my life better." ”
As the old saying goes, "When a man lives, a tree dies." "After weighing the pros and cons, I chose a place where it was better for me to develop and continue to work hard. It's the same with going to a big city, and it's the same with choosing to live abroad.
Danny also expressed that in ancient times, people would choose to migrate in tribes for food resources. Today's immigrants are essentially nothing more than that.
Since ancient times, human beings have been restless and will choose a more suitable environment to live according to the current needs and development prospects. Most people don't have those political considerations, let alone patriotism.
"Do what you have to do, make life more comfortable, and follow the rules."
"If you can understand that patriotism is fundamentally about loving yourself first, then it is not difficult to understand why people have such migration activities as immigration."
Of course, there are domestic advantages in returning to China for development, but the "cost" of going back also has to be considered. I think this is also the reason why most Chinese people do not choose to return to China.
As Danny said in the video, going abroad is not a hot-headed decision that can decide things, and after going abroad for many years, living habits and interpersonal interactions have gradually gained a new connection with this new city. "Returning to China at this time is no longer just a matter of stepping out of your comfort zone, but about rebuilding your whole life."
"It's time, it's financial, it's a big challenge for anyone."
Especially for overseas Chinese who have jobs and have already started a family, returning to China means "giving up some and starting from scratch." It takes a lot of courage. “
And the comment area also has a lot of resonance
"It's like I'm a girl from the north who married to the south, and now I don't quite adapt to the environment in the north......"
"I'm glad to see the rapid development of the country, but it's not always on the same chord to talk to friends when I go back to China."
"I'm afraid I won't be able to find a job when I return home!"
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At last
The main reason I think has been written very clearly, of course, there are some subtle reasons I don't know how to express appropriately, for fear of causing unnecessary controversy, so I would like to share a small story with you.
Before my classmate returned home from studying in the United States, his mother told him that he would not be welcomed by others, such as the disappearance of female students, shootings, racial discrimination, etc.
After the son returned to China, he forgot his mother's explanation and argued with others about the United States at the wine table, but the two sides turned the table upside down, broke up unhappily, and never corresponded again.
Truman, the protagonist of the movie "Truman's World", has lived a hard life, but he found that he originally lived in a huge studio, and his life was nothing more than a reality show "Real Life" carefully arranged by the director. The whole world is watching, only he doesn't know, and he is still acting seriously.
Since the world is a sound stage, we can play our roles with peace of mind, no matter where we are.