On a show, Zhang Songwen said: Maybe when I get older, many things are indeed more indifferent than the original, and I am also afraid of the word "indifferent".
The guest on the side said: You can't avoid this, you are fragile and indifferent.
Addendum: Is this the case the older you get?
The person next to him chimed in: the older you get, the better it is.
Zhang Songwen gave an example, someone used to ask him to go out, and he was very willing to go, slowly, he began to refuse once or twice, slowly half refused, and then later, maybe 1/5 went, and then later, even 1/5 didn't want to socialize.
The older you get, the more you like to be alone and get tired of socializing.
Therefore, many things are inherently done by young people, and when they get older, they are too lazy to move.
In the past, when I had dinner and party with friends, it seemed that everyone was sincere, but now that I am 40+, I feel that many people are superficial and performing.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't seem to be too lazy to communicate with others.
The reality is quite contradictory, I don't want to contact people, but I still have to go, I have to deliver a few sincerity, and I have to do performances that I don't like.
Zhang Songwen is an emotional person, and on many programs, he has seen that his heart is soft and he is especially prone to tears.
He said that in his studies, he was confident enough because of his hard work, but in other aspects, he was extremely inferior. In film school, he was never picked by the crew.
Not once, often, self-esteem is badly hurt.
Only people who have experienced too many ups and downs in the past will reveal their true feelings so much, and he will burst into tears when he sees others having similar experiences with himself.
In the tears, crying also has its own sadness and difficulty.
He can always empathize with others, and as a big star, he has the closeness of the brother next door.
Zhang Songwen's acting is super infectious, and each character is very close to life and real.
Because, he has experienced enough, and he has thoughts and feelings about what he plays.
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He has been enthusiastic for many years, so when he found that he didn't like to go to parties with others, Zhang Songwen asked himself: Is it not good to be indifferent?
Apathy, in a way, is not a derogatory term, and many times, it can reduce a lot of trouble.
After middle age, I have experienced a lot, and I am naturally indifferent. To be exact, it's not indifference, it's that you want to be happy and just want to be yourself.
When I was young, I felt that it was a good thing to have many friends.
When you reach a certain age, life will naturally screen you, and some of the three views and interests will go away, leaving three or two best friends who can accompany each other through a lifetime.
Anyway, I found myself becoming more and more aloof.
Likewise, fragile and terrifying.
Yes, I don't have to run around to earn living expenses, and I have the confidence to refuse to socialize. If you are still worried about money, you have to socialize and face people you hate.
Don't be entangled, just be indifferent, it's good, the state you feel comfortable with is right.
Guarding the loneliness that belongs to you and enjoying the joy alone.
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